I’ve been trying to stop my enabling but am feeling a little down. Oldest son is constantly on me for soap, to pick up his laundry, get bottled water, gas his car. The piece I have stopped is the buying him food every day. But in the big picture it doesn’t feel like I’m making any progress. He is intermittently nice but I think he has some bipolar tendencies. I’m at the angry and resentful stage and met up with him for gas two days ago. We exchanged words prior to meeting up where I mention he needs to get a job etc. once we met at the gas station he took my debit card as I waited. While walking away after gassing up with his back to me he gave me “the finger”. I yelled out the window that I was blocking his calls and am no longer gassing him up. Before I could get home to put the block on he blew up my phone with horrible verbal insults as usual. The next day thru e-mail he says he says (like nothing happened) let me know when my laundry is ready. I have not spoken to him in 2 days and have delved into my self help books trying to gain wisdom and strength to stop this cycle. I have such a hard time detaching permanently even though he is mostly disrespectful and entitled. The only time he’s nice is when I’m giving him what he wants. He’s 30 yrs old and begrudges me for not taking care of him. Any words to help me gain strength to be the change in the situation?