Today we are having a birthday party for his grandma at our house. So we invite him or not. I figure since it is in the evening he will want to spend the night. Not sure he could get to shelter in time to check any. What are your thoughts?
GM, you do what is in your heart to do, knowing what you can live with. Those are my thoughts. When reading the article on detachment, we do not coldly cut off our adult d cs from our lives. But, we do have to weigh out situations, as you already are. If there is a way for him to come and wish grandmother a Happy Birthday, then get back to the shelter on time, this may be an option. But, it seems it is not.
If you don't invite him, this is also a consequence of his own choices.
It is not you,
not including him.
My son has been kicked out for a week. I’m not sure what kind of contact I am supposed to have with him.
Same thing, Lisa, do what you can with what you know. I have a suggestion though, I used to say "I kicked my daughters out of the house." It made me feel awful. I started to turn that around to what it truly was "My daughters had to leave, due to their behavior."
You did not kick your son out, his actions kicked himself out.
(((HUGS)))
Leafy