Yes to making his letter a new post. YES to you are doing better now. However, telling us NOT is not telling him NOT. As Karen said, you need to tell him that he needs to do these things for himself. Remind him that it doesn't mean you don't love him. It is just better for him to do these things for himself. (You can always use the argument that the court will be a bit more impressed if the records show he made the calls rather his mommy.) Keep being strong. We're here for you (and quit apologizing!).