Stands~ It seems to me that you did try and find a placement for him and HE REFUSED to consider it. You know the old addage about 'leading a horse to water but can't make it drink'. You offered you son solutions. He just was too stubborn or rebellious or addicted to take the help. Honey ... it really is time to step back and let your adult child figure things out. If this were a first time thing ... or if he were younger then maybe you could still advocate for him. This has become his lifestyle. These are the natural consequences. PLEASE try this new and novel approach to dealing with your son. If you rescue this time and he re-offends he could be looking at big time in the big house. Perhaps a jail sentance will be the reality check he needs. Concentrate on your easy child and your newly married daughter. Give them what they have been missing - all the energy that you gave to difficult child. They deserve it.