It is common because these days it is very rare for a baby to be given up for adoption. The birthmother usually have issues. Most available from U.S. are taken away because of drug abuse. We read many profiles. You have a better shot of a non drug addicted baby in overseas adoptions from Asia (Russia is known for its Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) babies). I know my daughter Princess from Korea is 100 per cent sharp, smart, on the ball and capable. Same with Jumper, but we met her birthmother and got close to her.... Birthfather used drugs and was in fact in jail and birtmom didnt want Jumper anywhere near him. So we knew Jumper would be not be drug or alcohol exposed just as we knew Sonic was drug exposed and wanted to adopt him anyway. Jumper by the way was a completely private adoption and I still love her dear birthmother and it was very helpful to get to know her the way we did. Like Jumper, she is brave and caring and I hope to hug her again one day. I dont trust the words of adoption social workers. I am sorry about your daughter, Nomad. I know this must have been so disappointing. Adopted kids have a 50 percent chance of having mental health issues. Many of the birthmoms have mental health issues too.