I think you need to take this one day at a time. Who cares what they think of you? You're right. They are wrong. Don't get into a pissing contest with them. Meanwhile they have zero money of yours. And meanwhile you have no other option I am aware of. Keep your eye on the ball. No power struggle is necessary. I agree he needs to be able to come home. But.He does not have to come home to live with you, if I understand correctly. He can live in a Casita monitored by others (and you) in an extended family type situation. He knows this. He's bargaining, pressuring, manipulating, playing chess. He's an idiot. Don't buy in. Just play your own long game. Don't get distracted by theirs. Either clinic. Or L. How are the tests going?