Hi there,
I have been an avid reader of this forum and posted years ago about my DS. My DS is 14 and has been diagnosed with ADHD and CD. They also think he is Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) but won't make the diagnosis. He is my biological child with no early trauma etc.
DS is currently in Juvenile Detention for breaking an AVO against the family for the 3rd time. He has been in a week and they want to release him back into the home. I am in Australia and we don't have residential centres like in the US.
We have tried to help DS with various long term counselling, paediatricians, pyschartists and more recently enrollment in a private school for troubled teens where they stay for the week and come home on weekends. He lasted 8 weeks and was expelled for keeping knives under the bed, sneaking out at night, talking about how to kill someone, leaving a drawing of stabbing a teacher. And This was a place he liked !
After continuous violence at home, kicking in doors, throwing things, punching and kicking myself, his 14 sister and husband we took out an AVO. We have reported him breaching it 3 times to the police but he pretty much behaves that way most days.
He is on risperidone and trialling straterra but will not take medications. He shop lifts, graffiti,hangs off trains and smokes weed and drinks alcohol. We have absolutely no control over him. We used to do consequences/rewards up until age 13 when any infringement resulted in violence.
I just can't take it anymore. I worry for my daughter, husband and myself. The escalation in violence is frightening. I feel that one day you will read about us being killed by son. I can't believe they want to return him to us.
I have spoken to our community services and they said I have to relinquish my responsibility if I want him placed elsewhere (group home). My husband and I are gutted at this but feel like we don't have any options. We feel the best thing would be to have him in a medical facility to help with his mental health but they said they only take them if they are bipolar or Sczophrenic. We have no family that can take him and honestly we wouldnt want to put that risk on anyone.
Has anyone relinquished care? Or did you put up with the violence until they were 18?
Thanks for reading
Penguin
I have been an avid reader of this forum and posted years ago about my DS. My DS is 14 and has been diagnosed with ADHD and CD. They also think he is Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) but won't make the diagnosis. He is my biological child with no early trauma etc.
DS is currently in Juvenile Detention for breaking an AVO against the family for the 3rd time. He has been in a week and they want to release him back into the home. I am in Australia and we don't have residential centres like in the US.
We have tried to help DS with various long term counselling, paediatricians, pyschartists and more recently enrollment in a private school for troubled teens where they stay for the week and come home on weekends. He lasted 8 weeks and was expelled for keeping knives under the bed, sneaking out at night, talking about how to kill someone, leaving a drawing of stabbing a teacher. And This was a place he liked !
After continuous violence at home, kicking in doors, throwing things, punching and kicking myself, his 14 sister and husband we took out an AVO. We have reported him breaching it 3 times to the police but he pretty much behaves that way most days.
He is on risperidone and trialling straterra but will not take medications. He shop lifts, graffiti,hangs off trains and smokes weed and drinks alcohol. We have absolutely no control over him. We used to do consequences/rewards up until age 13 when any infringement resulted in violence.
I just can't take it anymore. I worry for my daughter, husband and myself. The escalation in violence is frightening. I feel that one day you will read about us being killed by son. I can't believe they want to return him to us.
I have spoken to our community services and they said I have to relinquish my responsibility if I want him placed elsewhere (group home). My husband and I are gutted at this but feel like we don't have any options. We feel the best thing would be to have him in a medical facility to help with his mental health but they said they only take them if they are bipolar or Sczophrenic. We have no family that can take him and honestly we wouldnt want to put that risk on anyone.
Has anyone relinquished care? Or did you put up with the violence until they were 18?
Thanks for reading
Penguin