ckay87
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My problem son was set up to live in a rental property owned by his father when I moved on to have a lovely and peaceful life with my boyfriend several months ago. Son is an absolute disaster. I've mentioned the details in other conversations. Aside from not working and barely functioning at ALL, he's added to the mix some pretty heavy paranoia and, word has it, hallucinating. I'm not ruling out mental illness, but it's more likely he's back into some real drug use. His father and I are working on convincing him to attend rehab. He's been down that road before. But, as most of you probably know, that's useless unless the addict wants and is willing to participate in treatment.
So here's my backup plan. And this may or may not make me a horrible person, but that line is pretty fine these days, so I can't really tell....He's on parole. He was released on parole (multiple DUI charges) in June 2018. He is currently on minimal supervision because I suspect they have bigger fish to fry. But he has done NOTHING that is required of him in his terms of parole AND he's getting worse. I very well may contact his parole officer and put a bug in his ear that things aren't going so well. The man asked me, during the only time I met him, that I let him know if things start taking a turn for the worse. My thoughts at the time were that I'd just stay out of it, but now I'm thinking otherwise. Now, doing so may or may not land him back in jail, but honestly, it wouldn't be the worst thing. It's just a matter of time before he crashes and burns somehow, anyway. Perhaps I should let him crash and burn (and hope no third parties get hurt in the process), or perhaps I should encourage the legal system to intervene.
I guess I'm just thinking out loud at this point. But if my thinking is way off OR if anyone has had this similar experience, definitely chime in here.
So here's my backup plan. And this may or may not make me a horrible person, but that line is pretty fine these days, so I can't really tell....He's on parole. He was released on parole (multiple DUI charges) in June 2018. He is currently on minimal supervision because I suspect they have bigger fish to fry. But he has done NOTHING that is required of him in his terms of parole AND he's getting worse. I very well may contact his parole officer and put a bug in his ear that things aren't going so well. The man asked me, during the only time I met him, that I let him know if things start taking a turn for the worse. My thoughts at the time were that I'd just stay out of it, but now I'm thinking otherwise. Now, doing so may or may not land him back in jail, but honestly, it wouldn't be the worst thing. It's just a matter of time before he crashes and burns somehow, anyway. Perhaps I should let him crash and burn (and hope no third parties get hurt in the process), or perhaps I should encourage the legal system to intervene.
I guess I'm just thinking out loud at this point. But if my thinking is way off OR if anyone has had this similar experience, definitely chime in here.