Hello everyone,
It has been a few weeks since I last posted. Suffice it to say that it has been pretty much one constant crisis with my 17 yr old daughter. Her m.o. over the past few months has been to violate curfew, leave the house and refuse to answer her phone to tell me where she is, and to come home high (on mj). When confronted with restrictions placed on her for these rule infractions, she has gotten very violent (I still have bruises from 3 weeks ago) and verbally abusive. We have called the cops twice and received no help. Basically they have told us that unless she commits something on the order of attempted murder, they won't arrest her. Apparently juvenile hall is too full in CA. She is flunking most of her classes and there is a real chance she won't graduate in June. She will 'rehabilitate' herself for a few days and make us trust that she is a person of her word, and the minute we let her go with friends, she pulls her same act...won't answer her phone, violates curfew, lies about who she is with, comes home high.
I am so weary of this. Really. I don't think I can take much more. I am so desperate today that I have been thinking maybe I should relinquish her to foster care. Is that even a possibility? I know, I know. That makes me sound like the worst parent. I just cannot go on with this non-stop stress. My other child is suffering greatly from all of the chaos my difficult child is bringing to the family. I can't sacrifice him for her.
Her p-doctor is trying to help, but it is so slow going. Her previous diagnosis was Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and PTSD, and she was on Luvox for the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). I do believe the medication has brought forth a manic episode, and there is a chance she is bipolar. If you heard how she talks, I think you would agree. She thinks she is the most important person in the world, that she has a special relationships with God, that she is going to be a famous actress, etc... Then she can get extremely irritable and explosive over the tiniest thing. The only thing I don't see is any sign of typical depressive symptoms. She is just angry all the time, and agitated much of the time. I took her to the ER and she escaped. I took her to a substance abuse treatment facility and she cussed everyone out once she realized she had to be voluntarily there. I feel that I cannot get help for her as her parent. Maybe letting her go to foster care is the only answer. Or else writing a check for like $20,000 to send her to a wilderness camp or horse ranch for treatment....like I could afford that! So, I am at my wit's end, and I will appreciate any advice that anyone can offer. Anything.
Thank you if you got this far in reading this miserable story...
L.
It has been a few weeks since I last posted. Suffice it to say that it has been pretty much one constant crisis with my 17 yr old daughter. Her m.o. over the past few months has been to violate curfew, leave the house and refuse to answer her phone to tell me where she is, and to come home high (on mj). When confronted with restrictions placed on her for these rule infractions, she has gotten very violent (I still have bruises from 3 weeks ago) and verbally abusive. We have called the cops twice and received no help. Basically they have told us that unless she commits something on the order of attempted murder, they won't arrest her. Apparently juvenile hall is too full in CA. She is flunking most of her classes and there is a real chance she won't graduate in June. She will 'rehabilitate' herself for a few days and make us trust that she is a person of her word, and the minute we let her go with friends, she pulls her same act...won't answer her phone, violates curfew, lies about who she is with, comes home high.
I am so weary of this. Really. I don't think I can take much more. I am so desperate today that I have been thinking maybe I should relinquish her to foster care. Is that even a possibility? I know, I know. That makes me sound like the worst parent. I just cannot go on with this non-stop stress. My other child is suffering greatly from all of the chaos my difficult child is bringing to the family. I can't sacrifice him for her.
Her p-doctor is trying to help, but it is so slow going. Her previous diagnosis was Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and PTSD, and she was on Luvox for the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). I do believe the medication has brought forth a manic episode, and there is a chance she is bipolar. If you heard how she talks, I think you would agree. She thinks she is the most important person in the world, that she has a special relationships with God, that she is going to be a famous actress, etc... Then she can get extremely irritable and explosive over the tiniest thing. The only thing I don't see is any sign of typical depressive symptoms. She is just angry all the time, and agitated much of the time. I took her to the ER and she escaped. I took her to a substance abuse treatment facility and she cussed everyone out once she realized she had to be voluntarily there. I feel that I cannot get help for her as her parent. Maybe letting her go to foster care is the only answer. Or else writing a check for like $20,000 to send her to a wilderness camp or horse ranch for treatment....like I could afford that! So, I am at my wit's end, and I will appreciate any advice that anyone can offer. Anything.
Thank you if you got this far in reading this miserable story...
L.