Lil
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Hadn't really said much since son and his girlfriend got their apartment. I can't say we didn't spend a pretty penny ourselves getting them settled, but other than the $150 loan to their first month's rent, no more money.
Son is still working. Doesn't get many hours but he likes it and his manager says (I called one night to find out his hours so I could get him to work when I thought he was out of minutes and then we went in and bought a gift card) that he does good work and he's very happy with him. So that's good. But BOY does he need more hours! girlfriend still doesn't have a job and this week is going to her dad's for Christmas, leaving son home alone, since we're headed to Vegas on the 24th. But I suspect she hasn't looked very hard since she knew her grandparents were taking her to her dad's for a week or so (Difficult Child was expressly NOT invited). There are jobs to be had here, so when she comes back and starts working, they should be in pretty good shape. Until then, the food pantries have been their friends.
Not that they haven't had little hands from us now and then...for instance today I gave them a plunger, lol. I still give Difficult Child rides when necessary as our bus service is poor, but I quizzed him on how he's going to get to/from work while we're out of town, since buses stop at 5:30, and he seemed quite unconcerned. Said he's sure someone will get off at the same time as him and worse case scenario he'll walk (It's about 4-5 miles), which was very good to hear. We're still considering letting him borrow my car while we're gone. But he hasn't asked at all.
So...Saturday we went to Jabber's family Christmas. Son hasn't seen the family since the blow up when he was kicked out of the aunt's house. He wasn't going to go...skipped Thanksgiving...but he didn't have to work and girlfriend said, "sure, let's go" so we took them with (with warnings to NOT get into it with aunt and uncle). I am so glad he went. Jabber's mom's face just lit up when she saw him! He hasn't seen grandma and grandpa since the infamous family reunion when Jabber's siblings made us spirit him away and we'd told them he wasn't coming...so it was a surprise. Anyway, his grandparents were both SO glad to see him, big hugs all around, including for the girlfriend, who had never met them.
Grandpa wasn't thrilled they're living in sin...lol...but that was expected. They were, however, very pleased that he is doing well and "back with us" if not in our house. I think it made son and girlfriend see that the family aren't "against" him. They needed that.
We brought them home and gave them their Christmas gifts. We expected and got nothing. It's okay. We'll take him (them if she's still here) to see Star Wars on Wednesday, then Thursday we're on our vacation until the 29th.
How's it really going? Well, I'm very cautiously optimistic. They may have a bit of trouble with the rent this time since she isn't working...I hope not, but am expecting the worst in order to not be crushed if it happens. But he seems...fairly happy. The temper is still rearing it's ugly head now and then, but...he smiles more.
Life goes on...with fingers crossed.
Son is still working. Doesn't get many hours but he likes it and his manager says (I called one night to find out his hours so I could get him to work when I thought he was out of minutes and then we went in and bought a gift card) that he does good work and he's very happy with him. So that's good. But BOY does he need more hours! girlfriend still doesn't have a job and this week is going to her dad's for Christmas, leaving son home alone, since we're headed to Vegas on the 24th. But I suspect she hasn't looked very hard since she knew her grandparents were taking her to her dad's for a week or so (Difficult Child was expressly NOT invited). There are jobs to be had here, so when she comes back and starts working, they should be in pretty good shape. Until then, the food pantries have been their friends.
Not that they haven't had little hands from us now and then...for instance today I gave them a plunger, lol. I still give Difficult Child rides when necessary as our bus service is poor, but I quizzed him on how he's going to get to/from work while we're out of town, since buses stop at 5:30, and he seemed quite unconcerned. Said he's sure someone will get off at the same time as him and worse case scenario he'll walk (It's about 4-5 miles), which was very good to hear. We're still considering letting him borrow my car while we're gone. But he hasn't asked at all.
So...Saturday we went to Jabber's family Christmas. Son hasn't seen the family since the blow up when he was kicked out of the aunt's house. He wasn't going to go...skipped Thanksgiving...but he didn't have to work and girlfriend said, "sure, let's go" so we took them with (with warnings to NOT get into it with aunt and uncle). I am so glad he went. Jabber's mom's face just lit up when she saw him! He hasn't seen grandma and grandpa since the infamous family reunion when Jabber's siblings made us spirit him away and we'd told them he wasn't coming...so it was a surprise. Anyway, his grandparents were both SO glad to see him, big hugs all around, including for the girlfriend, who had never met them.
Grandpa wasn't thrilled they're living in sin...lol...but that was expected. They were, however, very pleased that he is doing well and "back with us" if not in our house. I think it made son and girlfriend see that the family aren't "against" him. They needed that.We brought them home and gave them their Christmas gifts. We expected and got nothing. It's okay. We'll take him (them if she's still here) to see Star Wars on Wednesday, then Thursday we're on our vacation until the 29th.
How's it really going? Well, I'm very cautiously optimistic. They may have a bit of trouble with the rent this time since she isn't working...I hope not, but am expecting the worst in order to not be crushed if it happens. But he seems...fairly happy. The temper is still rearing it's ugly head now and then, but...he smiles more.
Life goes on...with fingers crossed.
