My 16yo son has lived with his father and grandmother for the last 4 years until recently. He was thrown out last week because he stole his grandmother's jewellery and has sold it. Unfortunately we can't get it back. The police were called but no charges were made. He got a right rollicking off the police officer and he isn't getting off lightly back home with me. The thing is.....he feels like he was left to his own devices too much at his dad's. My son has felt for a long time that his father puts his girlfriend before him which really stings. His father's girlfriend is jealous of my son and they have had a fractious relationship. My son told me he stole the jewellery, not for the money but for someone to actually notice him I feel my son's actions speak volumes. Personally I feel it was a cry for help. Unfortunately his father and grandmother don't see it that way. I do realise that his grandmother is experiencing deep emotional turmoil because of his actions. I have transferred all of my son's substantial inheritance from my late mother to try to start to make a mends but now the grandmother is sending threatening texts saying she is going to tell all his friends what he has done and he will be cut out of his inheritance from herself and his late grandfather and give it to his cousin and half brother instead and to go and have a nice life she said she hopes it was worth it. I really do understand her hurt but my son is still a minor. His father won't even speak to him and said he is ashamed of him. My son ran away when he got found out and I found him banging his head against a wall and then punching it. I just feel his dad and grandmother need to have a bit of self reflection to why my son did this. My son has been honest and told his friends and he really doesn't care about the inheritance money and that he just wanted time and consideration and to be put before an angry girlfriend who his dad * stays withbecause he feels sorry for her as she had a rough upbringing. (* His father's words)Apologiest that this post is all over the place. I just feel that my son is trying to make a mends and the grandmother keeps sticking the knife in with unkind wording. I'm trying to teach my son a lesson back here at home but also give him my time, love and understanding and a lot of inclusion. Things that he felt he didn't get at his dad's. His grandmother has undermined my wishes constantly over the past 4 years and my eagerness to co parent with his father has been stamped on by the jealous girlfriend. Lots of things have not helped. All of my son's clothing smelt strongly of damp and mold when he came home. I feel he wasn't looked after properly. I regret asking his dad to have him...I asked because the school was a lot better over that way and also I have struggled emotionally due to a very neglectful upbringing. My son is very focused on getting in to the armed forces. He is genuinely remorseful for his actions. He is also angry at how his grandmother and father have treated him. I'm finding it very difficult on how to go about things as I don't want to seem like I'm letting him off but also don't want to make him feel any more saddened than he feels already. He isn't allowed to see his friend's, he has lots of jobs to do around the house and will have to pay back any more that is owed to grandmother when he is working. I don't really want anything more to do with his father and grandmother as I feel the grandmother is emotionally abusive and his father is just too arrogant to deal with. He thinks he knows it all (sigh) I wanted to ask my family for advice but I don't want to shame my boy anymore than he has been shamed already. I will take any advice on the chin. Thank you for taking the time to read.