New parent

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by Lolag, Sep 10, 2018.

  1. Lolag

    Lolag Lolag

    I'm a mom of a highly volatile, very intelligent and charming and sick young man. I am divorced and he is my only adopted son and I am heart broken, scared, and at a loss of what to do ,both for him, and myself.
     
  2. Elsi

    Elsi Member

    Lolag, welcome. I’m glad you found us and am so sorry you needed to. Can you tell us a little more?
     
  3. Lolag

    Lolag Lolag

    Hi, my son was adopted at 3 days old. No health hx known. However his birth moms 3 other kids were taken away, so suspect drugs were involved. From day 3 he's always been a struggle. Kicked out of daycare,schools,etc. Graduated w a GED. Very smart, charismatic. He's currently on probation and living w me. Prone to violent outbursts when angered. Has smashed picture frames and all windows in my kitchen. Getting more scary with age. Apparently can't kick him out of my house, need to evict, which is a process. Feel so not supported by our system.
     
  4. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    It is too bad you didnt get the medicals on the birth parents.

    Drugs and alcohol taken while a developing fetus is in utero WILL cause various damage to the brain and very often behavioral problems. If his DNA also i cludes mental illness or addiction, these are hereditary.

    We adopted three kids and had the history of the birth family and medicals. One son was born with coke in his system and he has no behavior problems but he does have autism, probably caused by prenatal drug ingestion.

    Your son was born with a harder deck of cards if he was exposed to substances in the womb. Son is not at fault for that either. Please dont take the blame for this and try to be good to yourself. Therapy may really help you.

    Light and love!
     
  5. Lolag

    Lolag Lolag

     
  6. Lolag

    Lolag Lolag

    thank you for responding. No history on my son unfortunately. Dad was unknown supposedly. I Definately do need to seek therapy.