christianmom
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I haven't posted on here in a long time. I'm very thankful my son got clean from drugs 2-1/2 years ago. He no longer smokes or drinks. He serves God and has a steady job and is a great guy. However, he has some serious issues with the girl he likes. When he first started serving God and got clean, she wasn't happy about it. (I am pretty sure she is not a user - she just has a whole lot of personal problems - possibly from being abused herself when young). Anyway, she has lied and cheated for years and hurt him deeply and he keeps going back to her. I have been reading about things like this and her behavior is like that of which I have been reading about people in relationships with psychopaths and how the victims of these abusers keep going back because it is like an addiction. After they are hurt, they are addicted to how it feels when they make up. I'm wondering if this may be yet another addictive issue with him. He has such problems with it, that he has to miss work sometimes. I'm wondering if anyone has any advice or web sites to point me to for help. He finally has admitted he knows she doesn't love him, but that doesn't seem to matter. I would like to talk to him about all this. (Last summer, he supposedly broke up for good, and told me it felt like a huge weight was lifted off of him - but now he's back again with problems it seems like).