I'm very worried about Oldest. She's gone through another cycle of getting hours cut to virtually nothing at work, and is facing eviction. This has happened countless times over the years, and she always lands on her feet.. This time, though, she seems more despondent and depressed than I've ever seen her. It also happened in less than 2 months, quicker than it's ever happened before. I think she's burned a lot of bridges with friends and former employers and it's all crashing down on her. She feels friendless and alone, and says she is too ashamed of her situation to even reach out for help from anyone even for a place to crash temporarily. She's made a few calls re unemployment and food stamps, but is hitting some walls, and can't seem to find the motivation to leave the house to go anywhere and apply. I don't think she's eating, and I don't think she's left the apartment since I dropped her off Saturday after taking her to a movie and lunch. I am picking her up after work and taking her to buy her some groceries.
She's scaring me, frankly .. she's said and done some things that are concerning, like talking abut giving certain things away and thanking her sister for caring about her. Not manipulatively, as in the past, but, oddly. After she got mad at me for pushing her to do this or that to help herself, she said, "do you want to make me want to kill myself even more?" (which was a bit manupulative) I asked if she would please call the local crisis line for help, and she said no. She said she doesn't want to think about any of it. She is burying her head in the sand, and doesn't want to brainstorm with me about what to do next. I don't think it's to the point where I can call 911 about her, it's not overt enough and I know she'll deny it all.. but I am trying to keep in touch with her regularly at this point.
Anyway .. please, put her in your prayers if you don't mind.. and send good vibes, positive energy, etc. this way. Hopefully this will end up being a turning point for her to change her life going forward, but right now, thing are pretty grim.
She's scaring me, frankly .. she's said and done some things that are concerning, like talking abut giving certain things away and thanking her sister for caring about her. Not manipulatively, as in the past, but, oddly. After she got mad at me for pushing her to do this or that to help herself, she said, "do you want to make me want to kill myself even more?" (which was a bit manupulative) I asked if she would please call the local crisis line for help, and she said no. She said she doesn't want to think about any of it. She is burying her head in the sand, and doesn't want to brainstorm with me about what to do next. I don't think it's to the point where I can call 911 about her, it's not overt enough and I know she'll deny it all.. but I am trying to keep in touch with her regularly at this point.
Anyway .. please, put her in your prayers if you don't mind.. and send good vibes, positive energy, etc. this way. Hopefully this will end up being a turning point for her to change her life going forward, but right now, thing are pretty grim.