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[standswithcourage]

Well it looks like my 17 year old easy child is not going to do anything in my daughters wedding. I emailed her about it again and she said not to say anything else about it. I feel like it is coming from him. I dont know but it hurts my heart but I will get through this. I just cant believe that everyone else is in it. He has 2 sisters that are my daughters age. They are in it. Also his l/2 brother I think is going to do something. My niece is going to be the flower girl. I just am so irrated. I guess I will live through it.

 

[standswithcourage]

And on top of that - I talked to the church director that is actually a friend of mine from going to church there and she asked me why is it a big deal about my easy child - I told her it wasnt I just didnt want him to be left out - everyone else in the family , escecially his family, is in the wedding. I just wanted him to walk me down the aisle or something. I dont know. Anyway, the director asked me some questions about the relationship between my daugher and her fiance. It seems that he has been very rude to the director telling her what he was going to do and what he wasnt. I believe she told him thata she was in charge of it - she said he had a lot to learn and asked me if my daughter was all right. He is very opionated and stubborn and me- first. If my daugher can stand all that - I just dont know about it but I will keep my mouth shut and when she needs me I will be there.

 

[meowbunny]

You're wise to just stay quiet and be there when she asks for help.

As to your son not being part of the wedding, it really sounds like this is your issue and no one else's. If you want him to escort you down the aisle that badly, simply have the groomsman take your one arm and you take your son's ... nothing anyone could say once it happens. Personally, I'd let it go. It's your daughter's wedding and your fussing over your son not being part of it is simply causing more stress and strain for everyone.

 

[Big Bad Kitty]

^ what she said.

 

[TerryJ2]

Oh dear. Doesn't sound like a good relationship! I've got my fingers crossed !!!!

 

[standswithcourage]

Ok and thanks!

 

[standswithcourage]

Yall just help me get through this wedding. It will be beautiful I know. My daugher asked me to come over tonight to her house. I went and we just hung out. I didnt get sappy on her or anything. I am just so emotional about her. I just mmiss her so much. I love her. I want her to be happy and I want her to know I am always here for her.

 

[goldenguru]

It is hard to redefine relationships with our adult children. Something I am learning myself.

Don't just get through the wedding stands ... enjoy every minute of it. It comes and goes so quickly ... you need to soak it all in.

My only daughter got married this last summer and we just had a blast . Enjoy the planning ... the preparation and of course the big day.

Don't you dare let difficult child rain on HER parade ... or yours for that matter.

 

[standswithcourage]

OK - I will enjoy it. I will have fun and everything. It is a party and celebration. she has earned it because she worked hard to make it wonderful. I will be the mom she wants me to be. Thanks

 

[standswithcourage]

Today was the bridesmaid luncheon. It was a lot of fun. Sometimes I feel out of place in a way. My daughter has been around her fiance and his sisters(who are her age) so long. She has also been around his mom - since they practically shacked up at their house when my daughter didnt want to drive all the way to our house after a long night at work she would just stay over there - anyway - the other bridesmaids are friends of hers. It is just weird.