Aw, I'm sorry, I know how you feel. Especially since she is so young.
by the way, the doctors never discuss anything with-you. They just do it. I didn't like that part of it, either. I could only trust that they knew what they were doing.
One good thing about taking her off all medications is that she's there FT, so they will supervise and observe her and they are trained in that.
This is giving you a break. Take advantage of it and get some sleep. When my son was in the psychiatric hospital, I was upset and sad, but relieved, all at the same time.
Do NOT let her lay a guilt trip on you. This is what she needs. You are the parent. Period.