I have an update. The grandmother's best friend drove by around 30 minutes ago, to see if car there at house. Car was there. The cars of the other 2 men who live there, were also in driveway. So, 3 cars there.
She knocked hard. No answer.
Here is what could be going on:
*my gut feeling could be true and he was let go from his new job on Monday, when he went in to get his paycheck. The older, retired homeowner, who has sort of taken son under his wing, who got him in to 'the' conversation on Wed (reason why I started this thread)....perhaps got son amped up and more upset, angry at family. Hence the hour of texts in beginning of thread. So, son decided he needed a 'bender'...and thus he's on around day 2 of bender. Holed up in room, with phone uncharged.
*or, he's actually at someone else's house, on a bender....obviously doesn't have his car (it's parked at house), no phone charger with him..and so reason why phone is going right to VM.
I am curious why neither of the other 2 men would answer door when g'ma's friend just knocked. Perhaps, son told them not to? After all, he does NOT like this particular woman, friend of the g-ma. Is son passed out on his bed, not breathing? And the roommates don't know it? Maybe they're protecting son and giving him his 'bender' space? The situation is weird cuz this homeowner, elderly guy, often will offer my son 'cocktails' and to sit down with him and chat. This is not good for my son. Is this guy weird? It seems so.
My son has learned one thing and that is to not drink and drive. When he has had his last many benders...he makes sure to let me know when he comes out of it..'I didn't drive around while I was drinking...I stayed home.' I'm just fearful that he's stopped breathing. And the roommates are oblivious. This really sucks. I'm trying my BEST to stay focused and strong. My littles know NOTHING about this, I've been keeping up a good front.
The fact that his phone is going right to VM has me most stumped. I have to think positive. I am hoping that because he knows how horribly mean he gets when he's on benders...calling and really in rages to us, that he just turned phone off during bender so he wouldn't get on it, in a rage.
My only option is to call the police to check up. But, I cannot do that. I've called 911 on him in the past and he ended up getting arrested. Once he was doped up and resisted arrest, got a battery to LEO. To this day, he won't let me forget it. IF he's been drinking...is drunk, he would likely fight. His benders usually last around 3 days. Today is likely day 2. I am guessing here at all this.
My friend and husband say to just 'ride it out'.
AppleCori-no he doesn't have an illness. Last time he was in accident and taken ( conscious) to hospital by ambulance. His phone battery ended up dying some time around the accident. I posted a frantic msg to his friends on his FB page, we were 'friends' then, aren't now. And a guy friend of his, responded with a lead, that he was in accident. I tracked him to local hospital, jumped in car and drove down. I found his phone dead in his belongings bag. Yes, he knows my #.
KSM-thanks, I printed to that prayer.
I have to think he's alive. If something had happened (or does), his roommate would be able to charge up his phone (or turn it on, if it's just turned off) and call me.
