I stopped asking my dai g her what she was doing. I couldn't check as there was no fB or Internet but I searched her room and chased her around.
I stopped asking her anything because she never told the truth. The funny thing is, she is not a liar or was not before or after she used drugs. But when she was using?
ME: We can't help you unless we know what's going on. What do you use?
daughter g her whill using drugs: (clear eyed and looking us straight in our eyrs, first hub, thene) Honest, I just smoke pot and you can believe it or not but EVERYONE does. And i don't dont do it all the time. I hate alcohol. And I'm too smart to do anything dangerous. Yes, some of my friends do stuff, but I think they're crazy."
Daughter talking about her drug days ten years later: I tried aost everything and sold speed. If you use, you sell. THAT'S how it is. My favorite drugs were ADHD drugs, crushed in a pill rusher and snorted either alone or with meth or coke. I used meth and coke and tried all the psychodelics and even tried heroin twice, but it scared me. I didn't inject snyyhing. That was my only tjing. I hate needles. I did take downers when I had to sleep and that's when you'd beal mad because I slept for days. I l I ked speed though, not downers as much. Sometimes we took legal drugs to see how they felt if we snorted them. I did use pot and drink a lot too. I never told you the truth because I was a drug using addict and they LIE. IF THEIR LIPS MOVE THEY ARE LYING. NEVER TRUST A DRUG ADDICT."
by the way, my daughter doesn't think pot or alcohol is dangerous to everyone. "If you do it all the time, yeah, you have problems but I know people who have one drink day or smoke part just socially who fiction normally. It's when you can't be sober ever and your life becomes a mess that you know you're an addict." That's her opinion. Not mine. I don't like alcohol or pot at all.
The adult kids who bring us here basically are high on something most of the time.
I believe my daughter that addicts spin us what we want to hear. They don want to lose the money or emotional support, but mostly the money. We don't know their real story until they are no longer doing the crazies. And they can stare us in the eyes, tear up, and sound so sincere.it is a very good act.
To say I was shocked by what my daughter said about her drug days, after she wuit, is an understatement of the worst sort. But I'm glad I didn't know at the time. It wouldn't have stopped her and would have terrified me.
by the way, I am writing from our hotel room. I babysaty precious granddaughter yesterday while this same daughter and her friend cooked for the baby's party. Remember, she did go to two years of college on her own dime to become a pastry chef and the goodies looked yummy and..caloric!!! Remember to never give up. She is the best mother ever and quite a cool person!!!