My husband and I have been married for 26 yrs . It has been difficult, and we have seen therapist.
Actually it has been more difficult now since they are of age, then before, and this includes our easy child. Because, they keep coming back, him more so, even though we say no. I would have never lowered myself the way he does, but does pull himself up by the bootstrap by belittling us, me at work over the phone.
I dont have the emotional support, because I realize now, my husband chooses to be this way. He tries to pull off a "Know one lets me know this stuff". Rather that saying," I am relayy not deaf dumb and blind, I just use you as the guinea pig, dont come whinning to me". So in that respect, you know where my kids get their way of thinking,
Jen
Actually it has been more difficult now since they are of age, then before, and this includes our easy child. Because, they keep coming back, him more so, even though we say no. I would have never lowered myself the way he does, but does pull himself up by the bootstrap by belittling us, me at work over the phone.
I dont have the emotional support, because I realize now, my husband chooses to be this way. He tries to pull off a "Know one lets me know this stuff". Rather that saying," I am relayy not deaf dumb and blind, I just use you as the guinea pig, dont come whinning to me". So in that respect, you know where my kids get their way of thinking,
Jen