She is dealing drugs and harassing you over using your car, but she thinks you should allow her to control the custody of small children? Do you know what your future will be if you allow her to have that much power? Every single time you want to tell her no, she will threaten to take the children
. Or she will take them somewhere and not bring them home, and you will have zero way to make her bring them back. She will figure out that she can get a charity to give her help toward getting a house if she has the kids, and she will get money and food stamps each month, and she will get all sorts of other free things, and she will use those kids to get stuff as she puts them through the wringer and makes the kids, and you, miserable.
You will feel awful because you could have prevented it. You need to put the needs of the minor children above the needs of this adult who cannot or will not get her act together. She can take care of herself. They cannot. Get custody. Do NOT leave them vulnerable to her. Who knows what she would do, or who she would bring into their lives.
If you get consistent about telling her no, she will ramp up asking and pestering you, and then it will stop. It will ramp up in an effort to break down your will to thwart her. If you persist in saying no, and you just keep telling her no or even end the call the minute she asks for something, she will stop calling to ask for something. You will know if she only calls to ask you for something, because she won't ever call, but at least you will know.
I say this because letting someone use your car when you know they use drugs is a very bad idea. They are going to harm someone, or be seriously harmed. They are behind the wheel of a deadly weapon and are most likely impaired while they are using it. If they are found to have used your car to sell or transport their illegal drugs, your car can and likely will be seized and sold at auction. Your insurance will not pay you for the value of the car, or the balance of the outstanding loan on the car. You will still have to pay it. You know your daughter will not pay it with her money from selling drugs. You will also have a very hard time getting insurance on another car at a reasonable rate. The government does not have to prove that you knew that she was using your car in her drug transactions, at least not in most states. They have to prove that the car was being used in her drug transactions in some capacity. Period. Even if it was not her car that she was using.
Be VERY careful with your car. There is absolutely no way that I would let her use my car no matter how much she whine or moaned or was obnoxious. Cars are too expensive, and are simply too dangerous in the hands of those who are known to use illegal substances. If she gets on your nerves asking to use the car, or whining because you won't let her use it, hang up the phone, leave where she is, or make her leave your home, If she won't leave your home, call the cops and tell them that she is causing a disturbance and will not leave. It may seem harsh, but it will only take a few times to teach her that she cannot walk all over you. It will also provide a more peaceful home for the kids. If she is acting like this, she isn't really a good mother for them to have around, no matter what kind of guilt trip she tosses around.
. Or she will take them somewhere and not bring them home, and you will have zero way to make her bring them back. She will figure out that she can get a charity to give her help toward getting a house if she has the kids, and she will get money and food stamps each month, and she will get all sorts of other free things, and she will use those kids to get stuff as she puts them through the wringer and makes the kids, and you, miserable.
You will feel awful because you could have prevented it. You need to put the needs of the minor children above the needs of this adult who cannot or will not get her act together. She can take care of herself. They cannot. Get custody. Do NOT leave them vulnerable to her. Who knows what she would do, or who she would bring into their lives.
If you get consistent about telling her no, she will ramp up asking and pestering you, and then it will stop. It will ramp up in an effort to break down your will to thwart her. If you persist in saying no, and you just keep telling her no or even end the call the minute she asks for something, she will stop calling to ask for something. You will know if she only calls to ask you for something, because she won't ever call, but at least you will know.
I say this because letting someone use your car when you know they use drugs is a very bad idea. They are going to harm someone, or be seriously harmed. They are behind the wheel of a deadly weapon and are most likely impaired while they are using it. If they are found to have used your car to sell or transport their illegal drugs, your car can and likely will be seized and sold at auction. Your insurance will not pay you for the value of the car, or the balance of the outstanding loan on the car. You will still have to pay it. You know your daughter will not pay it with her money from selling drugs. You will also have a very hard time getting insurance on another car at a reasonable rate. The government does not have to prove that you knew that she was using your car in her drug transactions, at least not in most states. They have to prove that the car was being used in her drug transactions in some capacity. Period. Even if it was not her car that she was using.
Be VERY careful with your car. There is absolutely no way that I would let her use my car no matter how much she whine or moaned or was obnoxious. Cars are too expensive, and are simply too dangerous in the hands of those who are known to use illegal substances. If she gets on your nerves asking to use the car, or whining because you won't let her use it, hang up the phone, leave where she is, or make her leave your home, If she won't leave your home, call the cops and tell them that she is causing a disturbance and will not leave. It may seem harsh, but it will only take a few times to teach her that she cannot walk all over you. It will also provide a more peaceful home for the kids. If she is acting like this, she isn't really a good mother for them to have around, no matter what kind of guilt trip she tosses around.
to me all ghetto and crap and makes generalized threats. She even admitted to being involved in the shooting she somehow managed to get the other guy to take that charge on. When she gets herself worked up she says "Ill take a murder charge for my daughter you bet that!!!" and " youve only seen a 1/4 of what can come over my daughter." Threats obviously! Im just waiting for her to mess up but with the current system i don't know that it will happen.....I still haven't heard if she is getting charged with the missing money order that it appears she took on camera from stripes when she was working there. I don't know if they are going to drop it or what....ugggg frustrating!!! Sorry if this is all jumbles she is just so frustrating.
