Is the court or legal system involved? I have been going thru something similar with my daughter. No legal offenses, but with her staying out all night and us reporting it, the police were involved, the court deemed her a child in need of care (CINC) case.
She has a probation type officer who sets curfews and restrictions. He can also require random UAs. I could not find a residential or inpatient facility that our insurance would help pay for.
We were in the process of applying for an SED Waiver for a medical card to help pay for services. The only way, at the time was for us to pay $10,000 for a 28 day stay. Or have the probation officer ask the court to take temporary guardianship of her and put her in the juvenile shelter until a bed opened up. Then the state would pay for it.
Neither of those options were aceptable to me. Now, I'm taking her to an eight week intensive outpatient therapy in a nearby town, it last three hours a day three days a week. Our insurance is covering the cost. It is 100 mile round-trip those three days.
She seems to be working the program. It's scary because I don't know if this is what she needs or if we should've found a way to do residential treatment. I guess I'll be second-guessing for sometime.
Ksm