Raging is scary and can lead to violence. In a rage,, Kay took a glass vase (foggy memory here.. think it was a vase) and threw it hard at my son and it crashed and splintered against the wall a few inches from his head. Her bad aim was the reason it seemed she missed. I think she meant to hit him. Her eyes had gone black.. hard to explain. We had to do something. We did. She has never been back in our home again. We did buy her places to stay and helped her with rent when we had to sell what we bought. But she is not allowed home. We matter too, not just Kay. I believe some kids are so damaged, entrenched in anger and hate, that they have no desire to do better. They are punishing us, themselves, the world. Maybe some can't do better as early trauma can change the brain. Who knows? Nobody. I often wonder how much is brain damage from trauma/mental illness. I think you did what you had to do. You have yourself, a widow alone, and two other kids to keep safe. It is a shame that it came to this, but he is dangerous. Prayers and love.