Tickets Please!!

[Kolleen]

My my my!!! Sonnyboy got another ticket last night. This past 1-2 yrs. he's bounced from ticket to license suspension, driving with-o license, finally pays fine, gets license. They seem to always be running his plates. He said that last night the cop had to make a U-turn to pull him over. When one is driving on a suspended license I guess they do that. So here I am out with a friend having dinner and good conversation and I get this latest call. "Guess I'll be the only one in the family going to jail." That's when he said he got pulled over again. All conversations begin in Crisis & Choas Mode, it used be a real attention getter.

I let him vent and just told him, "I'm sorry. You need to turn this around." I asked him if he could talk to someone who could give him some ideas.
What he needs is a trust (make that ticket ) fund.

It's now all about money. Never maintains car insurance or car tabs, doesn't pay tickets right away, outstanding debts, currently no job. Holy krap!!! What's gonna happen to him?

How come there isn't a Magic Pill for this? Or maybe there is and that's when the tinfoil comes in handy????? teehee

I'm gonna be really busy this weekend. Told him not to call me with any more krap! grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

I can't even think about where this is all gonna spiral to.
tired..........
tired.........
tired..........

 

[CrazyinVA]

Ahhh I SO hear you on this one . Oldest is like this. She currently is without a license (suspended) or car, for failure to pay her insurance and letting tickets go unpaid. Medical bills and collection notices are unopened and unpaid. Warrants in debt on record with the courts, for unpaid bills, unpaid rent. One is even from a check cashing place, she took out a payday loan and never paid it back (and now her $150 payday loan has a $750 civil penalty on top of it; I checked the court records).

She is working, and says she at least wants to take care of the car/insurance/traffic ticket situation, since it limits where and when she can work (she has to walk, or depend on friends for rides).

I can tell you one thing, she won't get one cent from me for any of it.

Sorry, ended up venting in your comments.

I guess she thinks it doesn't exist if she ignores it.

 

[Suz]

Yep, Rob went through this cycle, too. A ticket for this, a ticket for that. His driver's license was revoked for years because he didn't pay his fines and he kept driving on a suspended license.

Every time he called my pat answer was, "I'm sorry to hear that, Honey. What's your plan?"

I feel your pain.

Suz

 

[DammitJanet]

What is it with the driving thing? I dont think Cory will be driving until 2020...lol.

 

[Mara11]

S1 spent about 4 years inside of that cycle. He lived in another state and tended to hit his dad up for $ help, so I didn't know about everything he had issues with. Now he has a baby and wife, he's realized how far into the hole he'd fallen and how scary it is to feed a baby with all of that trail of tickets and bad spending **** behind him.

I'm in awe of your drawing the line! Go you!!

 

[everywoman]

Great job detaching. Sometimes we have to just for our own sanity.

 

[tracyf551]

My difficult child will be 19 in May and he has never had a license. He was in placement for his 16th and 17 th b-day. He refused to get a job (even to this day he is not working) and I refuse to take him for his license. I told him from the jump if you have a job you get your license. (INSURANCE IS NOT FREE) He now I don't think realizes he can go on his own for them, with out a parent.
Well actually he can't get them, I forgot. He has a warrant for underage drinking and can't even apply for them till he turns 21. Oh well, I'll feel alittle safer on the rode till them. LOL

 

[Suz]

Tracy, not having a license hasn't deterred most of our difficult children . Rob discovered extra keys for both of our vehicles and would go on joy rides when we were out of the house. :wildone:

Suz

 

[tracyf551]

When difficult child is here (stops in 1 or 2 times a week) I watch my keys and hide the spares. My car is 5 speed but I'm sure he could figure it out if given the opportunity. I told husband the other night to pick up his spare he left hanging on the hook because you never know. I could see that happening here too. If by chance it would, car theft is a long jail sentence.
We work to hard to replace a vehicle right now.

 

[rejectedmom]

I got lucky difficult child never did get his licence, although he did have a car for a while that he drove unlicenced and un registered and uninsured. We took the distributor cap off and then when he got locked up we sold it to pay off some of his debts. -RM