It's been a few weeks since I've posted about our situation, and our daughter has been "mostly" ok. There have been no huge blow ups, just digs here and there....and even though they still hurt, they seem to be getting somewhat softer (or could it be that I'm getting used to it now?). She's been going to therapy every other week, attending her two classes, doing her homework, and going to work. Not much help with chores around the house, but one step at a time. I've been concentrating on how I handle or respond to her, and I think I'm successful about 50% of the time. I try not to question her every move, and try not comment on things that I can't control/change. I still have anxiety and worry about how she handles things, but I know that if I keep intervening she'll never learn, and I'll be always bailing her out of her problems. She has been and still is, late for everything, and I've been able to step back and stop myself from reminding her of the time and how she needs to move faster, etc. Don't get me wrong, I still slip and in the end I get a quick reminder from her sharp tongue for my troubles. Now here's my new issue, about a month ago she started dating someone. Now I've got another worry on my already overactive brain. I started the push for her to get on birth control and she told me she would. Yesterday I asked again, and now I'm hearing that her sex life and birth control are none of my business, that if she gets pregnant then I can worry. I pushed and finally she called and made an appointment with her dr. for a yearly and to get BC. But she keeps saying that it is none of my business and I need to stay out of it. I know I'm not wrong to keep bugging her, and in the end it's for her own good, but I keep asking myself....am I overstepping? We've talked before and she isn't emotionally / financially ready to have a baby, she said said she doesn't even know if she could handle the hormonal changes and would think seriously about abortion. I am utterly and completely against abortion and keep telling her that prevention is better than consequence. I know that most on this forum have things much worse than we do. I know that I need to have patience and can only take things one day at a time. I know that she's 21 and that she needs to figure things out. And I know that I can't fix her....she has to do it on her own. But how do I separate myself from this person that I feel like I don't even know anymore??