pinevalley
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I wanted to write an update about my difficult child, since he was discharged from a 30 day inpatient program for drug abuse. He has been home now for 3 weeks, and he is back in his high school, trying to finish his senior year. The good news is that the felony charges against difficult child have been dismissed. difficult child was arrested 2 months ago for stealing a woman's purse after he was kicked out of our house and he was desperate for money (probably for drugs). difficult child dropped the purse immediately after he took it from the woman, so nothing was taken from the purse. However he was arrested for burglary, which is a felony charge. He has been to court two times, and each time the prosecutor asked for more time because she was having trouble finding the victim of this crime. The prosecutor stated that they could not locate the woman whose purse was stolen, and they need the victim in court to testify that a crime actually took place. The judge granted one continuance, but then she got annoyed at the second request and would not grant another continuance, so she dismissed this case. So we are very relieved that this case is over. My difficult child has to go to court again for a shoplifting charge, but we are not too worried about this one, because it is not a felony.
difficult child started an intensive outpatient program right after he left rehab, but he was kicked out of that program last week. The director of the program told us that difficult child was not serious about this program, and they do not want him there until he is serious about following the rules of this program. Our son did not want to attend the meetings 3 nights a week, and so he would lie to us that he was getting a ride to the program, when he was actually out with his friends. The director of the program told difficult child that she would give him one more chance last week, but then difficult child stayed out all Friday night with his friends (without our permission)and he did not go to the program on Saturday. When he did not show up on Saturday the director called difficult child and told him that he was discharged from this program.
I have found another intensive outpatient program for difficult child, and I am taking him to this new program tonight. i don't have a lot of hope that he will be successful in this program, but I want to try it. This new outpatient program is just for teens, and they keep the teens busy almost all week so the kids do not have time to get into trouble with other friends. There are a lot of social activities with the group so the teens can have sober fun. This is different from the other outpatient program which was at a local hospital and it was for much older adults. My difficult child has agreed to go to this new program tonight, so that is the first step. He still wants to hang out with user friends, and he has to learn to stay away from these kids.
My husband and I have agreed to keep trying to help difficult child for now. It is a battle every day, wondering if he will go out with his friends and get high each day. I am hoping that the counselors at this new outpatient program can get through to my son, because nothing that h or I can say to him is working. I am reading the book Everything Changes now, and I know that I was very naive to think that difficult child would be "cured" after one 30 day stay in rehab. I now know that this will be a very long struggle for him.
difficult child started an intensive outpatient program right after he left rehab, but he was kicked out of that program last week. The director of the program told us that difficult child was not serious about this program, and they do not want him there until he is serious about following the rules of this program. Our son did not want to attend the meetings 3 nights a week, and so he would lie to us that he was getting a ride to the program, when he was actually out with his friends. The director of the program told difficult child that she would give him one more chance last week, but then difficult child stayed out all Friday night with his friends (without our permission)and he did not go to the program on Saturday. When he did not show up on Saturday the director called difficult child and told him that he was discharged from this program.
I have found another intensive outpatient program for difficult child, and I am taking him to this new program tonight. i don't have a lot of hope that he will be successful in this program, but I want to try it. This new outpatient program is just for teens, and they keep the teens busy almost all week so the kids do not have time to get into trouble with other friends. There are a lot of social activities with the group so the teens can have sober fun. This is different from the other outpatient program which was at a local hospital and it was for much older adults. My difficult child has agreed to go to this new program tonight, so that is the first step. He still wants to hang out with user friends, and he has to learn to stay away from these kids.
My husband and I have agreed to keep trying to help difficult child for now. It is a battle every day, wondering if he will go out with his friends and get high each day. I am hoping that the counselors at this new outpatient program can get through to my son, because nothing that h or I can say to him is working. I am reading the book Everything Changes now, and I know that I was very naive to think that difficult child would be "cured" after one 30 day stay in rehab. I now know that this will be a very long struggle for him.