Update

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by pasajes4, Apr 11, 2018.

  1. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    Son was arrested for violating a no trespass order for my property and for damaging my property. He went to court on Monday. The prosecutor contacted me and as a result of that conversation he was given probation with a laundry list of conditions including a no contact/ protective order. I guess he likes jail because he has slready violated the no contact order.
     
  2. BloodiedButUnbowed

    BloodiedButUnbowed Active Member

    I am so sorry to hear this. I will send up some prayers for your family.

    It is beyond infuriating that seemingly nothing, but nothing, gets through to our kids.
     
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  3. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    Some kids eventually get it. Pas I am sorry. Obviously yoiur son is not there yet. He is still very young.

    Love and light.
     
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  4. RN0441

    RN0441 100% better than I was but not at 100% yet

    I am so sorry also.

    Prayers and hugs for a better tomorrow for you and your son.
     
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  5. Triedntrue

    Triedntrue Active Member

    It is so hard to keep on reporting them. I know how that feels. Have you considered an alarm system? Maybe it would act as a reminder and deterrent.
     
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  6. recoveringenabler

    recoveringenabler Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Oh Pasa I'm so sorry.......sigh......you always sound so level headed and strong .....you don't seem to get dragged around by your sons behaviors.....and yet, it's so darn disappointing and frustrating.......

    Sending hugs.....
     
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  7. Tanya M

    Tanya M Living with an attitude of gratitude Staff Member

    Well darn it!! I'm so sorry Pasa.

    ((HUGS)) to you......
     
  8. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    Recovering, It has taken me 12 years to get to this point. There was a time that I took to heart the expression " you are only as happy as your saddest child" ( rough translation)

    It has taken a lot of therapy and prayer. This group has been a life saver. I also belong to a very good support group for parents of mentally ill children. I still have my moments.
     
  9. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    Somewhere, He is young. That is one thing in his favor. Someone once told me that at some point they revert to the values that they were brought up with. This was true in my case. I went through my rebellious hippie phase and at some point I just got sick and tired of living on the fringes. I hope and pray that it happens for him. His drug use starting at age 10 may have altered his brain making this difficult and perhaps impossible.
     
  10. New Leaf

    New Leaf Well-Known Member

    Oh Pasa, I am so sorry. There are no words. Keep hanging in there dear sister.
    Sigh.
    (((Hugs)))
    Leafy
     
  11. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    Most young people mellow out with age. Many who came here with problem kids saw changes as they hit the mid 20s. There is hope. Not all mellow out but a lot of them do so of course there is hope.
     
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  12. Albatross

    Albatross Well-Known Member

    Oh Pasa, I'm sorry to read this news. It seems like your son just isn't "getting" it yet. I am glad you are getting so much support, and I hope something clicks for him soon.
     
  13. SeekingStrength

    SeekingStrength Well-Known Member

    Hugs Pasa,

    I am so sorry. There IS hope.

    Thinking about you and your son this evening.
     
  14. in a daze

    in a daze Well-Known Member

    Yes. It's been a long, hard road for you Pasa. Praying that he someday sees the light....