How painful that 2nd letter must have been for you to read. I agree that he is escalating now that things are closing in on him. But he still isn't taking any responsibility, for ANY of it, other than being hungry. And he could have dealt with that without theft. And he doesn't have to use it to try to guilt trip you. All he knows to do is to feel betrayed, without any recognition of how his actions affect YOU, to act incredulous and offended that you would ever get to the point of having enough. My son was the same way, when we told him "enough." That same offense at our bad timing, as if there is ever a GOOD time to be driven to that point. I don't have any words of wisdom to add to the great posts here. I too think sitting and letting the mud settle is the right thing to do right now.