Why are there no new threads or members? Is this site dead.

Kat9

New Member
I’m new. No one has responded to my thread. So when I searched for new threads they are all very old. Makes me thing no one even monitors this site. I thought I’d get support with my u stable daughter under Parent Emeritus. But not so sure. Thoughht I’d mention it in case I’m not navigating the site right,
 

ksm

Well-Known Member
The site used to be much more active. But last year, there was a technical issue and no one could access the site. I think we lost lots of regulars when that happened. I just lucked out when I tried again...and I got on! I haven't had an issue since.

Have you started your own new thread yet? Tagging on to old posts may get ignored. Give it some time...

Ksm
 

Kat9

New Member
Yes. I posted a new thread. My daughter has problems that are different than others on here so maybe no one relates, she’s 50 and has always made bad decisions that has landed her in poverty with two special needs children. Now she’s homeless and I’ve not offered to help and am not talking to her right now. I’m elderly with health issues and the health issues are making g me feel me tall u stable so I don’t want to take on her problems. No one in family believes she has drug issues but she ran off from her husband with a crack head just out of prison once so I suspect she does indeed have sporadic drug issues, she had a high school friend take her in but her disregard for his home was so severe he began to nag her and belittle her. I really think he went out on a limb trying to help her, Bit she is so entitled and wants everyone to support her financially and help raise her kids and her son is way too severe to expect anyone to do that for her. She lets that son destroy peoples homes. The guy had t thrown her out yet. She stupidly left on her own with kids in tow and made her own self homeless. She didn’t want to be told what to do but she is living in someone else’s home and not respecting that persons home. Then she hates the whole family for not taking her in. No one wants their home and possessions destroyed.m
 

Copabanana

Well-Known Member
My daughter has problems that are different than others on here so maybe no one relates
I think your daughter's (and your own) issues are very like the majority of us here with our adult children. Most of us are older. And most of us can't or won't any longer take on our children's problems, because they behave unacceptably, have worn out their welcome, treat us badly, we're sick and tired, because it's time for them to deal with their own lives, or all of the above. None of us feel good about this. We would want to see our children prospering, safe, happy and normal. Nobody comes to this site, when all those boxes are checked.

What in the world could you do to save your daughter and her children, even if you were young and healthy? People live as they are able, and as they choose. Your daughter seems to want people to support her in every way, with no strings attached. She is not responsible for good conduct, being respectful, or reciprocity of any kind. The people who take her in are in one way or another abused.

You say, nobody wants their possessions destroyed. You're a person, too. And you don't want your things destroyed, your sanity eroded, your peace of mind and tranquility and safety taken from you, and why should you? Your daughter may feel entitled to take all those things away, but you are not obligated to give them to her. Your daughter is the one who is neglecting her children and their welfare. If it gets bad enough authorities will step in to protect them. There is no reason for guilt here.

PS As ksm explained, the site went through some real difficulties and was shut down. There are just a few of us left who take responsibility to respond. We have jobs and grandchildren and health issues. We do what we can. We would love it if you help us respond to posts. Welcome to you.
 
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