worst day ever- armed standoff
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TerryJ2
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I need a xanax. Or a stiff drink!
Absolutely, Janet. If I could send it through my DSL I would!!!!!
I am so sorry. But at least he's in jail now. I hope they let him cool his heels for a long time.
Are you going to get legal custody of Keyana? You can now, you know.
I'd get rid of the gun, unless you truly need it for protection. Change the locks, all that sort of thing.
But right now you need sleep.
Take care.
:flower: :bath: :smile:
Absolutely, Janet. If I could send it through my DSL I would!!!!!
I am so sorry. But at least he's in jail now. I hope they let him cool his heels for a long time.
Are you going to get legal custody of Keyana? You can now, you know.
I'd get rid of the gun, unless you truly need it for protection. Change the locks, all that sort of thing.
But right now you need sleep.
Take care.
:flower: :bath: :smile:
kris
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<span style='font-size: 14pt'> <span style='font-family: Georgia'> <span style="color: #990000"> good grief, janet. you've sure had some day. i'm so sorry.
my guess is he'll have to be arraigned to get bail set. i would go to the magistrate & get an order of protection....then make sure the prosecutor gets it so he can use it to have bail denied. cory needs to cool his jets for awhile.
you're not going to get a psychiatrist who hasn't seen him in awhile or not ever seen him to prescribe him anything....& i doubt they will make a jail visit. you might be able to get his old psychiatrist to call the jail's psychiatrist & speak with-him however.
i would stress to anyone who even considers posting bail that he is a HUGE flight risk. that should slow them down some.
you did absolutely the right thing by calling the cops. thank your lucky stars you have a therapist who thinks on her feet.
now you need to take care of yourself....do something soothing while you wait for husband to get home.
kris </span> </span> </span>
my guess is he'll have to be arraigned to get bail set. i would go to the magistrate & get an order of protection....then make sure the prosecutor gets it so he can use it to have bail denied. cory needs to cool his jets for awhile.
you're not going to get a psychiatrist who hasn't seen him in awhile or not ever seen him to prescribe him anything....& i doubt they will make a jail visit. you might be able to get his old psychiatrist to call the jail's psychiatrist & speak with-him however.
i would stress to anyone who even considers posting bail that he is a HUGE flight risk. that should slow them down some.
you did absolutely the right thing by calling the cops. thank your lucky stars you have a therapist who thinks on her feet.
now you need to take care of yourself....do something soothing while you wait for husband to get home.
kris </span> </span> </span>
smallworld
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Janet, what a scary scene. I'm so very sorry. I hope Cory can get the help he so desperately needs. Hugs to you.
mstang67chic
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I am so sorry that you had to go through this and that Cory is so full of whatever it is that he feels like he can behave this way. :sad: I'm so glad though that you are both ok. Do what you need to do to keep yourself safe. Sending lots of hugs, thoughts and prayers.
everywoman
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So sorry this has happened. I'm dreading next week because I know they are going to let difficult child go and husband will let him come home. He will mess up again, we will kick him out again, and it will all start over....such is my life.
dreamer
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hating to be bearer of bad news, but....I know here, when this pervert was arrested for ongoing long term molestation of children......(my child was one) he was out on bond the same day, and the police rearrested him on different additional charges the next day and he was bailed out before evening again.......and then the creep contacted 3 of the 6 victims and was arrested for contacting and harrassing these minor girls....and he was still yet again given bond, and he posted THAT bond (he owns his own business, his final bond total value was $866,000) So there he was charged with multiple sexual predatory charges and harrassing witnesses and victims.....and out repeatedly on bond. It has been 10 months since his arrest and it has not yet come to trial. After he had contacted victims, we tried to get an order of protection to protect our child (well, to have it in writing, anyway, becuz her place of employment was refusing to permit her to not gather carts in parking lot alone after dark at her job unless she showed them she had filed for an order of protection formally) BUT our states attorneys office refused to permit an order of protection saying that they only offer those to battered women girlfriends and spouses. ANd when I asked why he continued to be permitted to POST bond even AFTER he violated his bond by contacting minor age victims........I was told "he is innocent till proven guilty" so- they refused to deny him bond.
ANyway, thats what our personal experience has been. in my opinion it stinks big time.
ANyway, thats what our personal experience has been. in my opinion it stinks big time.
donna723
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Oh Janet, I'm just speechless! Don't know what to say! I am so, so sorry that you've had to go through all this...
You KNOW you did the right thing in calling the police. I'm so glad it all came off with nobody getting hurt! It sounds like he's just totally gone off the deep end. Who decides if he will be let out on bail or not? Is there someone you could talk to and try to persuade them to not let him out on bail? I can't believe they would even consider it! Definitely make sure you get an Order of Protection where he can be picked up just for coming on your property again!
Have you considered contacting a domestic violence group to get some assistance from them? That's what this is, you know ... you are being attacked and threatened by a family member in your own home! They are really good at cutting through all the cr*p and getting the law enforcement authorities to do what they're supposed to do! It's worth a try anyway. Has Cory been physically violent with you before?
Sending lots and lots of cyber (((hugs))).
You KNOW you did the right thing in calling the police. I'm so glad it all came off with nobody getting hurt! It sounds like he's just totally gone off the deep end. Who decides if he will be let out on bail or not? Is there someone you could talk to and try to persuade them to not let him out on bail? I can't believe they would even consider it! Definitely make sure you get an Order of Protection where he can be picked up just for coming on your property again!
Have you considered contacting a domestic violence group to get some assistance from them? That's what this is, you know ... you are being attacked and threatened by a family member in your own home! They are really good at cutting through all the cr*p and getting the law enforcement authorities to do what they're supposed to do! It's worth a try anyway. Has Cory been physically violent with you before?
Sending lots and lots of cyber (((hugs))).
rejectedmom
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Janet, You must be totally exhausted! You did absoltely the right thing. Cory needs to be out of your house away from you and anyone else he might feel like hurting until he is stable.
Get some rest and sort this out when you are a bit more calm. Do what you have to do to keep yourself and others safe. I too was cy calm when I called the cops on my son after he broke my rib. I think it is part of a self protection mechanism that allows us to do what we have to do. you might have a delayed response to our emotions. I know I fell apart a few days afterwards. Take care of yourself. (((HUGS))) -RM
Get some rest and sort this out when you are a bit more calm. Do what you have to do to keep yourself and others safe. I too was cy calm when I called the cops on my son after he broke my rib. I think it is part of a self protection mechanism that allows us to do what we have to do. you might have a delayed response to our emotions. I know I fell apart a few days afterwards. Take care of yourself. (((HUGS))) -RM
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flutterbee
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I'm so sorry, hon. You're in my thoughts. Take care of you.
I'm so sorry, hon. You're in my thoughts. Take care of you.
DammitJanet
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Well I am floored! They are going to let him out on bail if he can find someone to pay it and supposedly he can use his car title. I am supposed to find his car title and make it available to whoever comes for it.
Ok this makes absolutely no sense to me! I thought if you made a NO NO while on probation they revoked your probation and you had to serve your sentence? Isnt that what is meant by that? Or maybe I am just a dummy who has seen too much tv.
After all this, what is to keep him from coming back and causing me trouble? Notta! I cant get to the magistrates because my car wont start. husband is home for one nite only.
He and Cory "talked" and came to an "understanding"...blah!
Im done...so done.
I have no support it seems. I can be threatened, harmed, harassed,and bullied in my own home and nothing is done. I guess when I die someone will notice.
Ok this makes absolutely no sense to me! I thought if you made a NO NO while on probation they revoked your probation and you had to serve your sentence? Isnt that what is meant by that? Or maybe I am just a dummy who has seen too much tv.
After all this, what is to keep him from coming back and causing me trouble? Notta! I cant get to the magistrates because my car wont start. husband is home for one nite only.
He and Cory "talked" and came to an "understanding"...blah!
Im done...so done.
I have no support it seems. I can be threatened, harmed, harassed,and bullied in my own home and nothing is done. I guess when I die someone will notice.
wakeupcall
Well-Known Member
Oh Janet, what could he have been thinking? I think that's the problem, our difficult child's just plain don't think or can't, I'm not sure which it is. What a nightmare for you and your family, Cory included. You've done the right thing, no matter how difficult it is. Be safe...
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flutterbee
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Can you call the police and express your fears and see if they'll at least send a patrol car out throughout the evening/day?
I'm wondering why they didn't treat this as a domestic issue, in addition to the other charges. I don't know the laws in your state, but typically domestic issues are treated differently. When my ex was arrested for domestic abuse, I was given a TPO without having to appear in court...based solely on the incidents leading to the arrest. He was told when he was released that he was not to come near me or attempt to contact me. We arranged a police escort for him to get his personal belongings. It was only a temporary order, of course, and if I wanted a more permanent order I would have to appear, but it was a start.
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I'm wondering why they didn't treat this as a domestic issue, in addition to the other charges. I don't know the laws in your state, but typically domestic issues are treated differently. When my ex was arrested for domestic abuse, I was given a TPO without having to appear in court...based solely on the incidents leading to the arrest. He was told when he was released that he was not to come near me or attempt to contact me. We arranged a police escort for him to get his personal belongings. It was only a temporary order, of course, and if I wanted a more permanent order I would have to appear, but it was a start.
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