My difficult child and his family came into town last weekend and stayed a few days. The day they were leaving they got in an arguement. His wife then openlu admitted that my difficult child son hasnt worked since last yr, adn that he has been known to hit her. She said it happend that day. I called the police! My difficult child son took off priorto them getting here, and she would not press charges. Instead after theings quietd down he came back picked her up and they went home.
Ironically that afternoon I was in touch with a fellow nurse about a frineds b-day party. This nurse had my son in an outpatient Adolescent psychiatric program when he was 16, she remembered him. She basically told me that at that age the Docs will classify the kids as Mood Disorder, but now as adults Bipolar. I talked with my son about it, and how one pill would help, just as if it was a stomach ulcer, or BiPolar (BP) medications not to be embarrased to ask for help.
What this nurse also said, " It is time to give this up to the Lord, you have been carrying this to long. And when one does this, you have to leave it there and not take it back. Beleive and accept that you have done your part in all this, and the Lord says it is ok to let it go". Someone with an objective just validated my self worth in all this. She did not judge me or my son. She did not talk nasty about any of this. Wow what a relief!
Now my son and I have conversations on the phone, but just plain, no expectations , nothing. How long that will last for him, I dont know, but for me it has to be that way.
Jen
Ironically that afternoon I was in touch with a fellow nurse about a frineds b-day party. This nurse had my son in an outpatient Adolescent psychiatric program when he was 16, she remembered him. She basically told me that at that age the Docs will classify the kids as Mood Disorder, but now as adults Bipolar. I talked with my son about it, and how one pill would help, just as if it was a stomach ulcer, or BiPolar (BP) medications not to be embarrased to ask for help.
What this nurse also said, " It is time to give this up to the Lord, you have been carrying this to long. And when one does this, you have to leave it there and not take it back. Beleive and accept that you have done your part in all this, and the Lord says it is ok to let it go". Someone with an objective just validated my self worth in all this. She did not judge me or my son. She did not talk nasty about any of this. Wow what a relief!
Now my son and I have conversations on the phone, but just plain, no expectations , nothing. How long that will last for him, I dont know, but for me it has to be that way.
Jen
