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I think it's mostly true that happiness is a choice. Perhaps ENTIRELY. I just lost a friend to cancer, and I tell you the truth, she was happy much of the time. Even when Hospice was called in. I dislike that expression about only being as happy as your least happy child. That is an ugly trap...

Much, if not everything here, resonates with me. Our adopted daughter repeatedly has done very inappropriate things and has somehow managed to sweep us into her giant messes. We were very slow to extricate ourselves from it all, even though she is past 21. We would give her chances upon chances...

Something I heard on addiction that touch my heart. I listened to something by R Kennedy. It was a you tube video. It did have a tiny bit of political stuff at the end. But this is not political. I listened because he spoke about his previous addiction to Heroin. Goodness. How does one...

HI everyone! MIss and appreciate you all as well. Deni is still acting as Administrator. However, of course, when the site is down, there is little to nothing she can do except communicate with the owner and take it from there. Fingers crossed all works out well.

The similarity is always so interesting to me. Our daughter ALWAYS starts calling us more and speaks of family more mid to end of month when her disability money runs out. HOWEVER, there are a nice handful of months this happens literally a week into the month. The idea of "family" becomes...

I too tend to give to shelters and the like. ONe time a woman who works for a place that feeds the homeless put on the neighborhood APP a call for a need for food. I contacted her and she literally came to my house and I literally handed her bags of canned goods and such from my pantry. Two...

Mof3: ((Hugs))) I lean towards NO, but of course only you know the specifics etc. There are logical consequences to breaking the law. Our situation is not as intense as there are no criminal charges and no jail time. I know your heart must be hurting. But at 35, it’s time to pull back. We help...

This is so true. We are having "issues" with our daughter's constant moving. Ironically, her biological mother constantly moves. I recall nicknaming the woman a "Nomad" (ironic, I know). Anyway, now our daughter does this and with each move, she loses much of her personal belongings, deposits...

I'm so sorry. First off, many here can relate. The mention of blocking phones really struck a chord with me at this particular time. My husband never blocks our daughter, but did after being treated VERY rudely and he just couldn't take it any more. The man as been a saint for decades. She...

I’ve heard of “grey rock.” To the best of my knowledge it’s sort of like ignoring “bad” behavior. Going silent. No reaction. Like “grey rocks.” Blah, neutral…plain…quiet. Not reacting at all. But I too would like to hear more!

I’m so sorry. Our adopted daughter recently found her birth family. She suffers from mental illness and mental illness is highly prevalent in her bio family. She visits them and they welcome visits, but I’m fairly sure they don’t necessarily want her full fledged enmeshed with their family...

Hello and welcome. First off, what is Life 360? Our child, who happens to be adopted, displayed and displays similar behavior. We only found out in recent years that there is much mental illness and drug abuse in her bio family. How old is your son currently? We came to a breaking point a few...

Hello Liz. The advice already presented has been spot on. Your son has shown himself to be dangerous. He can not live in your home. Period. If he doesn’t want to at least go to counseling sessions, that’s on him. Detachment and boundaries are big helpers in these situations. Since he is under 21...

Im so sorry to read of the recent horrible turmoil. The others have already said it all….such good advice. Is this the son that is a CPA ? And he is married? If so, how has his spouse reacted to his drinking? Does he like his career and have any motivation to go back to it? Sounds like first...

I am soooo very sorry to read this bluebell. "I was diagnosed with breast cancer last July and I am having a full day of scans today to determine if I can stop treatment so I am having a hard time dealing with all of this. My diagnosis really made me more anxious about his future, since mine...

Beta, My situation is a little different, yet MUCH the SAME. I have not seen our daughter for two + years. After a horrible incident of her doing, things definitely changed in our relationship. She showed little to NO remorse. But, we do keep in touch with her as she calls daily often multiple...

Thank you, New Life. A tiny bit of clarification…when I say “detached,” I mean that my happiness is not vested /attached with hers. Of course I hope for the best for her, but I am no longer overly attached to any outcome. It’s all very hard.

We didn’t fully realize the negative impact our daughter had on our son until he was much older and I do wish I had years before. After a horrible incident with her, we have kept her at a distance and are practicing detachment. But we do communicate with her regularly and help her a little...

Welcome, Mercury! So much of what you wrote resonates with me and our situation and so many others that I have read on this board. And the pain us parents feel is tremendous. I'm fairly sure not everyone can relate to the deep hurt these situations cause us. It is profound. Do you happen to know...

How very sad and concerning . What brought about this adoption? Are either bio parents mentally ill? Was there possible drug use or alcohol during the pregnancy? Right off the top…when she threatens to kill you, you should call the police. Period. Make sure you keep your valuables locked up and...