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It has been a long time and thought I'd quickly update. DS moved in with friends. They are sharing an apartment about half an hour away from us. We never see him and he calls only rarely, when he is expecting a piece of mail usually. For a while he wouldn't pick up when W called, but lately...

When our oldest son was 19 he found himself in significant legal trouble. It's a very long story, but the upshot is, we sent him to a thirty day rehab and he was placed in sober living thereafter. The benefits of sober living are exactly as you describe - the residents are expected to find a...

I am sorry you are dealing with this. We have similar issues and concerns with our son. Other posters are absolutely right, there is nothing we can do to control, manage, or fix them. All we can do is set boundaries for ourselves and detach, with love, when needed.

I have, perhaps, a unique perspective to share. I am the stepparent of not just one, but two troubled young men. Last year I was faced with the difficult choice of either accepting my violent, drug-addicted and felony-convicted stepson, who was then 19, into the home my wife and I share, or...

I am going to watch "We Need To Talk About Kevin" with my W as it seems like it may apply to our situation with DS. My W is in denial that DS harbors tremendous rage toward her and potentially could be a danger. I am so sorry for your pain as I am for us all.

Prayers up. Please keep us posted.

We've learned that DS is in one piece and apparently trying to ingratiate himself with F and relatives on that side of the family. He can sure pull out the charming routine when it suits him. We gave F the information we had proving DS' involvement with booze and pot. We also told F to make sure...

I just want to send you virtual hugs. We are at the very beginning of this journey with our 20 year old son. I think he is going down the same road that you describe. Our son just relapsed and left our home rather than comply with our requirements for him to stay with us, including going to...

Hi everyone, It's been a while since my last update. I also enjoy helping other parents navigate the storms that our troubled children bring into our lives, so it's good to be back. DS, who turned 20 earlier this month, moved out last night after we confronted him with evidence that he had...

There is nothing like hardship to expose the pretenders in our lives. A couple of years ago I suffered through a horrible, gut-wrenching estrangement from a close friend of over 40 years. It has taken me this long to really understand that I am better off without this "friend" in my life...

It's been quite a while and I hope everyone is still doing well. This is the first time I have checked this board since I began this thread. Copa, I really liked what you said about your son taking advantage of your support and using the respite you provide to continue indulging his selfish...

Hello everyone! I hope that we are all staying safe and are well during these very challenging times. I have not been here in a very long time and wanted to post an update (those who don't know my story can read my post history, it's very long and convoluted). The last time I updated, my...

Thanks WC for such a thoughtful response! DS has not been violent since his arrest in June while in his previous residence. Since then his mother and I bailed him out of jail, sent him to a 30 day rehab, and then a halfway house, which proved not to be a good fit for him. He has been with us...

DS seems to be at the very least, flirting with political views that are to our mind, unacceptable. We don't know what to do. He talks to us openly about his thoughts, which is a good thing; but he is becoming more and more militant, more passionate, and more entrenched in beliefs that both W...

Just want to say I am glad for your family that there is some progress. We are now walking the "struggling to launch" side of the street with both our sons so I have empathy now from personal experience.

It is a lifelong journey. I'll tell you this, we all love our difficult, troubled children more than life itself. And not one of us would ever have asked that they be the way they are. Not one of us does not wish that these same children were "normal" - or perhaps a better term would be, free...

I am the stepparent to two young adult men, both of whom have displayed violent behavior. You CANNOT tolerate this for one second longer - even if the only option is YOU choosing to leave this hot mess of an adolescent for his father to deal with. Given the horrific circumstances in which you...

DS has been a member of our household for about one month. And things are going better than I could have possibly predicted. Mind you, there is plenty of room for improvement. He is holding down a part time job, which is a positive. He is also SUPPOSED to be completing his high school diploma...

Welcome. More will be along to offer support. Unfortunately we are powerless over the decisions of our adult children. All we can do is set boundaries and if necessary, love them from a distance. I also have a mentally ill son. He is currently living with us. We have a contract in place. So...

Hi there and welcome, you are among friends. My household recently expanded to include our 19 year old son, who we sent to rehab a couple months ago. He transitioned to a sober living facility but did not want to follow their rules, and became disruptive/disrespectful, so he was kicked out. He...