I have not posted in what feels like ages. Yet I follow along and catch up when I can. I wonder if anyone can offer suggestions on a next step idea for my now 20 year old son. After years of out of control teenage years and incessant pot smoking he has come a long long way but has a long way to go. After moving out over a year ago, he checked himself into the hospital for suicidal thoughts and after that we let him come home and worked hard to help him get back with a therapist, medications, a job, etc. He decided not to go to college and works 30 hours a week with a long commute. He hates the job so that feels unsteady and is often late. I doubt he will keep the job for much longer. As a matter of fact, he is oversleeping right now and I am not going to wake him up and rescue him which of course is hard on me but he is snoozing away without a care in the world. I still worry about him incessantly as he has spurts of reckless behavior that indicate that he is still a far far cry from ready to be on his won. I struggle with what to do now because I am very impressed and encouraged with how far he has come but there are still major problems that can't be ignored. Like he binge drinks alone, and just acts weird enough that I am suspicious ALL the time. Oh and no longer on his medications or seeing the therapist. ANytime my husband and I discuss how to handle him we end up in an argument. As you all can imagine the up and down roller coaster of living with my son is beyond stressful. He has a much better relationship with all of us and needs the support of family/friends. But I am certain what he needs now is to live on his own. Yet with some supports. I looked into job corp but he doesn't qualify. I am searching the internet looking for a place he could live with support. I have looked into renting a place for him and helping him get started with the costs but its just not feasible. We live in a very expensive metro area and finding anything below $1500 a month is impossible.