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flutterbee
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I might be getting ahead of myself, but want to be prepared.
The kid I used to refer to as my second son or GFGII has been in lock-down, court ordered, rehab for several months. He is currently a ward of the state. However, he is being released Thursday to his mother until the custody hearing at which time it is hoped that she regains custody. He was turned over to the state in order to get him into the Boys Camp thing here, which a lot of parents with inadequate insurance, but who make too much money for medicaid have to do. He stole a car and ran away from Boys Camp. He was in a couple of foster homes and ran away from them. He ran away from home, stole his mom's car. He's been in a lot of trouble. Drugs were an issue. I do not know if he was an addict or just impulsive and rebellious. This kid had a really good heart, but a whole lot of anger. Apparently, he would pick up any drug and take it. No matter what it was. Even if it wasn't something that would make him high.
His mother and I were close friends, but had a falling out about a year and a half ago. GFGII, now 16, is still friends with my son and I'm pretty sure his mom wants to encourage that because GFGII looked up to my son and he was about the only kid in GFGII's life that was a positive influence. Since we've had the falling out, I don't know if she'll let him over here.
Here's where I need advice. A mutual friend cautioned me that if GFGII does come over, I need to lock up my medications. I have *a lot* of medications. Only a couple that he could get high on, but I don't think he was picky about what he was taking. I easily have 30 bottles of prescriptions on my counter. I have no safe. She suggested that I either lock them up or not let GFGII spend the night and to make sure that my son watches GFGII like a hawk while he's here.
I've always had a special place in my heart for GFGII, however he kind of burned some bridges with me. I don't want people in my house that I can't trust. I don't want to have to worry about him getting into my medications and stealing them and possibly OD'ing. At the same time, I do want GFGII to have a positive influence in his life. There is a lot of history that I won't go into now.
I'm really torn as what to do about this. Do I not let him in my house and have my son visit GFGII at his house? Do I let him in my house and not take my eyes off him?
How would you handle this?
The kid I used to refer to as my second son or GFGII has been in lock-down, court ordered, rehab for several months. He is currently a ward of the state. However, he is being released Thursday to his mother until the custody hearing at which time it is hoped that she regains custody. He was turned over to the state in order to get him into the Boys Camp thing here, which a lot of parents with inadequate insurance, but who make too much money for medicaid have to do. He stole a car and ran away from Boys Camp. He was in a couple of foster homes and ran away from them. He ran away from home, stole his mom's car. He's been in a lot of trouble. Drugs were an issue. I do not know if he was an addict or just impulsive and rebellious. This kid had a really good heart, but a whole lot of anger. Apparently, he would pick up any drug and take it. No matter what it was. Even if it wasn't something that would make him high.
His mother and I were close friends, but had a falling out about a year and a half ago. GFGII, now 16, is still friends with my son and I'm pretty sure his mom wants to encourage that because GFGII looked up to my son and he was about the only kid in GFGII's life that was a positive influence. Since we've had the falling out, I don't know if she'll let him over here.
Here's where I need advice. A mutual friend cautioned me that if GFGII does come over, I need to lock up my medications. I have *a lot* of medications. Only a couple that he could get high on, but I don't think he was picky about what he was taking. I easily have 30 bottles of prescriptions on my counter. I have no safe. She suggested that I either lock them up or not let GFGII spend the night and to make sure that my son watches GFGII like a hawk while he's here.
I've always had a special place in my heart for GFGII, however he kind of burned some bridges with me. I don't want people in my house that I can't trust. I don't want to have to worry about him getting into my medications and stealing them and possibly OD'ing. At the same time, I do want GFGII to have a positive influence in his life. There is a lot of history that I won't go into now.
I'm really torn as what to do about this. Do I not let him in my house and have my son visit GFGII at his house? Do I let him in my house and not take my eyes off him?
How would you handle this?