BusynMember1
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I hope this is the right place for it. I want some female thoughts because my husband just says " its none of our business." He's right, but I am curious about other guesses. And I know they are just guesses. I apologize, but don't want to give a huge background here as I want to make sure we are ananymous.
My younger daughter has been divorced for six months. It was amicable and they share custody of the kids. My daughter is having a house built, but it won't be ready for a while so gladly we are housing her and the grands until then.
This daughter is extremely responsible and we trust her. Because she was down about the divorce, we told her to go out with her friends and we will happily watch the grands, if they are with us at the time. She insists on paying us to babysit!!!
Ok, now for my issue.
My daughter has been divorced for a very short time and in her history, she always waited at least a year to even date after a break up. She is cautious. Last year she got a new job, and a slightly older guy that she knew from school also works there. From Day One they became fast friends and have a lot in common, but I know for a fact that he had nothing to do with the divorce. You will have to trust me on this.
Now that she is legally divorced she is reconnecting with friends she didn't see for a while. But the person she sees and talks to the most is Sam. I will call him Sam and her Amy. It is easier for me to use names, even fake names, than keep typing "my daughter" or "the guy she knew from school."
So Amy and Sam are always together and talk on the phone s lot. She refers to him as her friend Sam. But I suspect its mutually more. Enquiring Mom minds want to know even though we have no right to know until we are told. She has gone boating with his family and likes them. They are a family of high achievers and yet she calls them down to earth.
If this was your daughter, what might you think? I never butt my nose into my childrens business without being invited so I wont ask. I think its too soon, but Amy and her ex were not happy for a few years.
Sorry if this is inappropriate!!!
My younger daughter has been divorced for six months. It was amicable and they share custody of the kids. My daughter is having a house built, but it won't be ready for a while so gladly we are housing her and the grands until then.
This daughter is extremely responsible and we trust her. Because she was down about the divorce, we told her to go out with her friends and we will happily watch the grands, if they are with us at the time. She insists on paying us to babysit!!!
Ok, now for my issue.
My daughter has been divorced for a very short time and in her history, she always waited at least a year to even date after a break up. She is cautious. Last year she got a new job, and a slightly older guy that she knew from school also works there. From Day One they became fast friends and have a lot in common, but I know for a fact that he had nothing to do with the divorce. You will have to trust me on this.
Now that she is legally divorced she is reconnecting with friends she didn't see for a while. But the person she sees and talks to the most is Sam. I will call him Sam and her Amy. It is easier for me to use names, even fake names, than keep typing "my daughter" or "the guy she knew from school."
So Amy and Sam are always together and talk on the phone s lot. She refers to him as her friend Sam. But I suspect its mutually more. Enquiring Mom minds want to know even though we have no right to know until we are told. She has gone boating with his family and likes them. They are a family of high achievers and yet she calls them down to earth.
If this was your daughter, what might you think? I never butt my nose into my childrens business without being invited so I wont ask. I think its too soon, but Amy and her ex were not happy for a few years.
Sorry if this is inappropriate!!!