He did call. He's acting morose. While unstated, he acts like a victim of circumstances. He says he is sleeping in bushes. (The positive to this is that he listened to M and did not sleep at the property last night.) He wants to come back, but wants a clean slate. For example, he says he worked almost all last week, but for some reason does not want to verify it. He wants a do over. With everything. I think he must be out of money. No food. No place to stay. Hard. Related to that, I think he went to the psychiatrist and therapist to protect his SSI, not for true help. M says that he came to get his stuff saying I said it was OK. (I had said go talk to M.) M said he acted aggressive. M also suggested that the only way to deal with this is for me to leave. To be absolutely unavailable to J. Am I the problem? But this approach has it's merits. For a long time, I had been talking about returning to Brazil where I used to live. I have not been in 8 years. I agree Wise. The more "no's" he hears, the more he might have to look in the mirror. But the thing is, for sure he does not want to be homeless, without support. But at the same time, he believes the lack of support and a place to live, should be his. He does not feel the need or ability to modify his behavior. For sure he is self-medicating. The jury is out whether or not marijuana is an addiction. I believe for him it is. And there may be other, harder drugs, although he has always maintained he would never go there. As long as I offer shelter without a bottom line, I support this denial on his part. I can't go there. Is it "normal" that he would blame me and M for everything? Thank you.