I am new to this site and am soooo grateful today for this thread. I have been feeling somewhat better knowing I am not alone in my misery and hurt over this adult child. This week she (she is an anti-vaxxer) screamed at me because I mentioned I got the shingles vaccine. Now she won't speak to me and said she feels I have disrespected everything she stands for. I have tried calling her several times, but she won't take my calls. I just can't understand why every single thing I do is wrong in her eyes, and that I am such a disappointment to her. At this time in my life it is gut-wrenching to still feel like I am a complete failure in her eyes. I have another adopted daughter who loves me to the moon and back, so I am left with not being able to understand. I'm not stupid...I have a Master's degree, but still I can't understand the one daughter.