You know what? I think he is doing well. He was so dependent on you yet he moved and is not asking to come back. He found a place to stay. He is asking for less. Ok maybe he is there because pot is legal. He is not the only one and at least he will not be arrested. I think there are things for you and Jabber to celebrate.
Is he living your dream for him? No. Most children do not live our dreams for us. I admit I can't really cook well (cough cough) so it didn't cross my mind to hope for a prize winning pastry chef. She isn't rich either. But we must embrace and be proud of what they choose to do.
Your son is making big strides. Enjoy the peace.
Much love to two great people