DaisyC1234
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Since I've decided, for now, to put the whole guardianship thing on the shelf and I am limiting the time I babysit them. I work full-time and get up early. It drains me and I have to think about me right now. Who knows when the "sh@!" will hit the fan and I have to take these girls on.
So I had both grands Friday and Saturday, then the older grand most of the day Sunday. My daughter asks for help babysitting again tonight until 12:30am. I told her I can only do up until 10:00, I get up early for work. She comments that this job isn't going to work out then. Welp, should of thought of that before you started... This weekend was exhausting, she didn't pick them up until 2:30 am....but she did tell me that before hand, so I knew what I was getting into, so that's on me, but I can't do that everyday.
My daughter is also on her News resolution kick(@ChickPea). Somebody paid her rent, not sure who, but I honestly don't know or care at this point, it is what it is.
Someone said a fine line between helping and enabling. There really is. My parents will grab onto any light they see and jump with both feet, thinking they are "helping", but with a stern finger wag, which never works. I see myself as "helping" with the kids. That's as far as I will go, but I do have to limit that also. I do love them, but she's going to have to invest in some childcare. She also has no respect for peoples time. If she says she will be there at 10:30, she'll be there at 12:30. I understand we can get stuck in traffic or whatever, but every time there is some sort of excuse. My dad even makes excuses, oh, she doesn't take the freeway, oh, ok dad.
Then there is her thyroid issues. She told my dad she's taking pills for it now....bs... there are no pills, but according to him she looks better now....but anyway..
I told her during the week I can only do until 10:30 twice a week. In our state she can get help for childcare, but again it requires her to do paperwork and jump through their hoops, which is a problem, because she'd rather lounge around rather than get things done.
My dad will only be staying with us until he figures out what he's going to do, so I'm hoping maybe 3 months or so. They still have to sell their home, so he will only be part-time at our home until it sells. I'm thinking March he will be with us full-time.
I need me time....so I'm pushing back while I can.
So I had both grands Friday and Saturday, then the older grand most of the day Sunday. My daughter asks for help babysitting again tonight until 12:30am. I told her I can only do up until 10:00, I get up early for work. She comments that this job isn't going to work out then. Welp, should of thought of that before you started... This weekend was exhausting, she didn't pick them up until 2:30 am....but she did tell me that before hand, so I knew what I was getting into, so that's on me, but I can't do that everyday.
My daughter is also on her News resolution kick(@ChickPea). Somebody paid her rent, not sure who, but I honestly don't know or care at this point, it is what it is.
Someone said a fine line between helping and enabling. There really is. My parents will grab onto any light they see and jump with both feet, thinking they are "helping", but with a stern finger wag, which never works. I see myself as "helping" with the kids. That's as far as I will go, but I do have to limit that also. I do love them, but she's going to have to invest in some childcare. She also has no respect for peoples time. If she says she will be there at 10:30, she'll be there at 12:30. I understand we can get stuck in traffic or whatever, but every time there is some sort of excuse. My dad even makes excuses, oh, she doesn't take the freeway, oh, ok dad.
Then there is her thyroid issues. She told my dad she's taking pills for it now....bs... there are no pills, but according to him she looks better now....but anyway..
I told her during the week I can only do until 10:30 twice a week. In our state she can get help for childcare, but again it requires her to do paperwork and jump through their hoops, which is a problem, because she'd rather lounge around rather than get things done.
My dad will only be staying with us until he figures out what he's going to do, so I'm hoping maybe 3 months or so. They still have to sell their home, so he will only be part-time at our home until it sells. I'm thinking March he will be with us full-time.
I need me time....so I'm pushing back while I can.