Kathryn, I've just found your posts. I too deal with a difficult daughter. I have 2 granddaughters 8 and 6 who I'm not able to see because i didn't do what she wanted. She has taken them 1000 miles away. All I can do is trust that they are being taken care of. I too am building a support for myself, reading books and this website. I've also signed up for borderline central.com. take care of yourself,cry when you need to, know that there are others who understand.