Crazy but true...

[scent of cedar]

I just re-read your opening statement.

I would be willing to bet that every one of us who is harboring (or has harbored) a grown difficult child male has experienced the same kind of thing. Maybe not as blatantly as you have had to. I am so glad you chose to share it with us. Reading about what the others of us are going through helps every one of us to heal.

:O)

 

[Dixies_fire]

I have to agree with scent of cedars and Suziestar. While I have never been in that position, I would say you need to have a "come to Jesus" about boundaries and adult behavior and the fact that you have successfully raised him, does not give him the right to question your choices.

When I was first married to my ex husband, he tried to tell me he was uncomfortable with my drinking, he tried to shame me into stopping. (I wasn't a drunk or an alcoholic)

I told him it was something he lived with when we were dating and he wasn't my father.

If I wouldn't take that from my husband I **** sure wouldn't take it from my adult son.