Detachment 101 Failure

[DammitJanet]

I dont see what you are deciding as failure either to be honest.

It took me a long time to get to the point that I was ready to throw in the towel and put my foot down with my son. Probably longer than folks here wanted to give me! Im sure there were people here who wanted to shake me and tell me to toss him out on his keester but I wasnt ready yet. (Now I am...lol.)

We all have to do what we are comfortable with and can live with. I honestly dont know how I will deal with things if something really does happen to Cory and I know I kicked him out. Well actually he left voluntarily which has made things easier for me. I have just told him he can never come back home now once he left. Im trying to decide how much I am willing to "help" him if he really gets down and out. Like am I going to let him really starve. Probably not. I dont think I could do that yet. I wont hand cash over though. I would buy food or give food cards. I have already told him where the food pantries are.

This isnt what we signed up for when we dreamed of kids.