Merris
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difficult child called me from psychiatric hospital yesterday and told me they are transitioning him to the new sub-acute program today. I was shocked. I knew they were planning on this, but I didn't know there would be no notice!
I'm trying hard not to be a control freak. He's 18, he's an adult - he can handle this on his own. I'm just freaking out because I know nothing about the program and I'm scared. A sub-actue unit is like hospitalization at night but more freedom. They will help him get a job, make sure he has his medications, etc., but other than that, I don't know what it's all about.
I believe he can make it. I know he can make it I know he can have a good life, he just has to choose to. Hes smart, hes witty, hes an excellent person but he has such a low self esteem that I hope he doesnt fall into the hole again. I have to keep reminding myself that I have no control. I have done all I can do and the only thing I can do now is be supportive.
Its going to be hard because he still counts on me, but somehow, Im going to have to be strong and make him do it on his own. Hell have a lot more supports than I ever did, and hes stable on his medications so he should be okay. Repeat, I have no control.
He called last night at 9:30 but I was asleep. I have to listen to the voicemail but I'm nervous because I don't want to get caught up in everything again. I have to MAKE him handle this on his own. I have to MAKE him stand on his own 2 feet. Anything else would be a disservice to him.
He's been through so much, but he's got a ways to go. The world will be a different place for him now, he has to get a job and be a grown up. It's going to be a struggle for him, but he will adjust.
Strong words for a woman who is sitting on the floor in her apartment and quivering in fear. Sigh. He HAS to make it and I HAVE to stop obsessing.
Merris
I'm trying hard not to be a control freak. He's 18, he's an adult - he can handle this on his own. I'm just freaking out because I know nothing about the program and I'm scared. A sub-actue unit is like hospitalization at night but more freedom. They will help him get a job, make sure he has his medications, etc., but other than that, I don't know what it's all about.
I believe he can make it. I know he can make it I know he can have a good life, he just has to choose to. Hes smart, hes witty, hes an excellent person but he has such a low self esteem that I hope he doesnt fall into the hole again. I have to keep reminding myself that I have no control. I have done all I can do and the only thing I can do now is be supportive.
Its going to be hard because he still counts on me, but somehow, Im going to have to be strong and make him do it on his own. Hell have a lot more supports than I ever did, and hes stable on his medications so he should be okay. Repeat, I have no control.
He called last night at 9:30 but I was asleep. I have to listen to the voicemail but I'm nervous because I don't want to get caught up in everything again. I have to MAKE him handle this on his own. I have to MAKE him stand on his own 2 feet. Anything else would be a disservice to him.
He's been through so much, but he's got a ways to go. The world will be a different place for him now, he has to get a job and be a grown up. It's going to be a struggle for him, but he will adjust.
Strong words for a woman who is sitting on the floor in her apartment and quivering in fear. Sigh. He HAS to make it and I HAVE to stop obsessing.
Merris