I've posted before about my 20 year old who almost didn't complete community service, my parents overstepped, told me I was signing his death certificate because I was making him leave our home, but in the end he's out of the court system. He asked and we let him move back home after he finished, and started a new job this past weekend. He didn't do enough research into the job and won't get nearly enough hours to be independent any time soon. Here's my question .. While he's living at home, is it enabling to help do his laundry or make him meals? As a mom I want to help, and when he's not doing things on his own I want to step in and help. But I know I really shouldn't. Is it totally enabling and/or helicoptoring doing these things for him? by the way, we don't give him money, just room and food. Thanks for your thoughts.