Mintchip
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My son, age 29, has had a drug abuse problem for at least 10 years. He has been in and out of prison and in and out of countless in-patient and out-patient programs. In the fall of 2015 he landed in prison again, and then two more long-term in-patient programs, that he completed. For the first time he seemed to be truly remorseful and desiring to "have a normal life."
So, while waiting to go to a sober house, he asked if he could stay with me for a couple of weeks until a bed was available. I thought I was seeing a lot of growth and agreed with the condition that he had to remain 100% clean. That was in late September 2016. Overall, he seemed to be doing very well and was attending an out-patient program. The weeks turned into months and there was no sign of a bed becoming available.
Then, in mid-December, he began to use again. This has continued since that time, even though I have told him he must leave my home as he has broken the rules over and over. I have spoken with both his counselor and probation officer when this first began. Yet, he remains in my home. On Saturday morning, I discovered messages between another young man and himself discussing all sorts of drug transactions. I printed them out along with a letter, nearly begging the counselor and the probation officer to put him into another long term in-patient program or jail. I felt horrible about having to turn him in, but I know from past experience, the situation is only going to escalate.
Last night, when his step-father and I returned from work, we found weed and a home made pipe in the house. I took away his house keys and told him from now on, he cannot be in the home alone. This is the first day, and of course it is snowing. I have the slightest twinge of guilt over doing this to him, but I am becoming desperate. We are living in fear of what we might come home to if he is so carelessly using drugs in our home. We have received strange phone calls in the middle of the night and early in the morning from people demanding money from him. His own father, whom he lived with for the most part, died of a sudden heart attack just a few years ago. And now I am afraid of the stress he is putting on us might do the same thing.
Any ideas how to get him out of the house permanently? He had an interview with a shelter but is supposedly on their "short list" and his PO has not returned my phone calls. I just don't know where to turn.
So, while waiting to go to a sober house, he asked if he could stay with me for a couple of weeks until a bed was available. I thought I was seeing a lot of growth and agreed with the condition that he had to remain 100% clean. That was in late September 2016. Overall, he seemed to be doing very well and was attending an out-patient program. The weeks turned into months and there was no sign of a bed becoming available.
Then, in mid-December, he began to use again. This has continued since that time, even though I have told him he must leave my home as he has broken the rules over and over. I have spoken with both his counselor and probation officer when this first began. Yet, he remains in my home. On Saturday morning, I discovered messages between another young man and himself discussing all sorts of drug transactions. I printed them out along with a letter, nearly begging the counselor and the probation officer to put him into another long term in-patient program or jail. I felt horrible about having to turn him in, but I know from past experience, the situation is only going to escalate.
Last night, when his step-father and I returned from work, we found weed and a home made pipe in the house. I took away his house keys and told him from now on, he cannot be in the home alone. This is the first day, and of course it is snowing. I have the slightest twinge of guilt over doing this to him, but I am becoming desperate. We are living in fear of what we might come home to if he is so carelessly using drugs in our home. We have received strange phone calls in the middle of the night and early in the morning from people demanding money from him. His own father, whom he lived with for the most part, died of a sudden heart attack just a few years ago. And now I am afraid of the stress he is putting on us might do the same thing.
Any ideas how to get him out of the house permanently? He had an interview with a shelter but is supposedly on their "short list" and his PO has not returned my phone calls. I just don't know where to turn.