tryingtobestrong
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As many know the long road with my alcoholic son (24 years old) i have been on, I am still torn if I am doing the right thing.
Last week he sent me a picture of his sobriety date and that he was 30 days sober. A day later it was a video of something he seen before work and the next day was a video of his sponsors cat.
I replied to each and then there is no more communication. I don't reach out to him, I don't send him a card, etc.
This past Saturday he sent me a text asking about his tooth, etc and I advised him about seeing the dentist he seen before out there since they accepted our insurance prior. I have not heard anything since.
Silence and no contact worries me....
I did send him an email with more dental insurance information so he has it to provide to the dentist. I haven't heard anything since Saturday.
The mom in me is telling me to text him and see if he got an appointment or ask how he is doing. But then the other mom in me is saying to stay disconnected.
I actually dread a text message from him. I fear he may ask me about our dog we had to put to sleep or he may hint for money. I won't give any money. I have learned that part.
I shouldn't dread hearing from my son. That is what hurts.
Am I being terrible by not texting and asking how he is doing? He did send me 2 videos and that was nice of things he seen last week but there is never a text asking how we are doing or how his grandparents are. Just needed to vent, share and ask for your opinions.
Last week he sent me a picture of his sobriety date and that he was 30 days sober. A day later it was a video of something he seen before work and the next day was a video of his sponsors cat.
I replied to each and then there is no more communication. I don't reach out to him, I don't send him a card, etc.
This past Saturday he sent me a text asking about his tooth, etc and I advised him about seeing the dentist he seen before out there since they accepted our insurance prior. I have not heard anything since.
Silence and no contact worries me....
I did send him an email with more dental insurance information so he has it to provide to the dentist. I haven't heard anything since Saturday.
The mom in me is telling me to text him and see if he got an appointment or ask how he is doing. But then the other mom in me is saying to stay disconnected.
I actually dread a text message from him. I fear he may ask me about our dog we had to put to sleep or he may hint for money. I won't give any money. I have learned that part.
I shouldn't dread hearing from my son. That is what hurts.
Am I being terrible by not texting and asking how he is doing? He did send me 2 videos and that was nice of things he seen last week but there is never a text asking how we are doing or how his grandparents are. Just needed to vent, share and ask for your opinions.