It is October 9th and I wanted to review this post for myself. I am so low twisted and torn up about what to do.
Although he has brought no drugs home son continues to stay away for days on end not telling us where he is. He has not gone to school with any consistency. It is like he puts the bare minimum in to play with us.
Yesterday we are out for Thanks Giving dinner. We almost went on our own as we had not heard from Son since Thursday evening to Sat wher he used home as a pit stop and right out again. I have told him it is unacceptable that he does this. He apologizes but it is just to shine us on. He asked if he could bring a friend I said sure (stupid me). It was a young girl from school. I noticed they were holding hands so I asked about his girlfriend J. He said they were still together but having some troubles. I told him it was not nice to play with this girls emotions if he was still in another relationship.
After dinner he asked if the girl could visit for a while I said yes and when I was heading to bed I told son she needed to leave. I told husband to make sure she left. He didn't. He declares he told son she had to go but didn't ensure this happened. (That's another frustration).
I woke at 5 am to find them both on my sons bed!! I was furious he tried to declare they fell asleep by accident. BS full intent. I don't even know if this girl is 16!! I told him out out out!!! They both left and he had not been back since. He even had the nerve to ask for a ride because it was raining!!! What the hell is wrong with his head!! Zero tolerance policy 2 things drugs and girls overnight. I said if he had a girlfriend of greater than 6 months who's parents approved of them sleeping over and they were 18 or older then we could talk.
I can not take the blatant disregard for us or our home. If he doesn't need rehab for the issues he has, well then he is just an
who has no intentions of abiding by any rules we have in place.
My husband vciilates about asking him to leave. I want E out and I told him he has 30 days to sort out a place to stay and get himself on OW.
He declares yesterday that he had charges because of us. He only did harder drugs because he was incarcerated and was introduced to them there. Odd beocause he stole my post op OxyContin before that and one of his charges is for possession of cocaine. What BS. Regardless clearly he wants to take no accoutebkutiy for his past or current behaviors.
I truly don't see this changing any time soon. He has Ben called Pre-Contemplative which means the odds of him getting into a long term rehab program are pretty slim because he doesn't see the need for it.
This is starting to have way too much of s strain on my mental health. My nerves are in a terrible state. I truly do not think I can cope with him living here any longer.
I am desperately trying to get my husband on board with this plan.
He has stolen money again as well. My own fault for leaving my purse unattended.
I wish he was more active with drugging or belligerent to us. He is not. It is like he is playing us and it is killing me. FOG and Gas Lighting.