I am new and don't know where or really how to post. This thread looks really old so I don't know who will see this. My daughter is 22. She has mental health issues. refuses to get help after 4 years of us trying to get it for her. We finally got her into a job corp out in San Jose (we live in San Diego), but she stayed only a few months and found a way back to her abusive boyfriend. I bought her a plane ticket to go back, but she refused it and I looked at her and told her that this was the LAST help we were going to give her. She chose to go back to the boyfriend's house. He beats and burns her and recently posted graphic nude photos of her all over his facebook, but she keeps going back. It is like she is addicted to him and throws everything away for him. We have been going through this for 4 years now. She is an alcoholic; she binge drinks and literally wakes up in strange places with bruises all over her. We have tried everything. She was fine until she turned 18 and then BAM all of this. I am physically and emotional sick over this. I am 39 and have two other daughters 7 and 9 and a wonderful husband. I know that she will knock on my door in a couple of days and I will have to close it in her face.. I don't know that I can, but I don't know what else to try. I am so sad and I feel like this is going to be my whole life from now on, as it has been for the last 4 years. I am so sad and worried all the time. I cry every day about her. Every day I think she is dead and put myself through a grieving process and I am drained... I am at a loss. I don't know what the right answer is. I read some people say cut her off completely and I hear other people write not to ever give up on your child.