toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Hi Everyone,
So I am worried about difficult child again. He is in a program and ok as far as I know..... last week he asked me to pay for a haircut because he had a job interview on Saturday. OK great I did do that. Last weekend we also paid for a subway pass, according to him he got a one week pass from where he was staying and then he was on his own. Well he would need a pass to get around the city etc so we did that.
So now I havent heard from him even though I texted him and sent him two messages on FB. And that bus pass from last week was just a week so if that story was really true he would have needed another pass this week.
So I have a bad feeling again..... I see posts on FB so I know he has seen my messages. His posts feel a bit iffy and he sounds depressed although it is hard to tell. But his pointed lack of response is really the red flag to me..... he doesnt communicate when he is using or not doing well. It struck me this morning maybe the subway pass was a ruse to get something he could sell for cash (it would be only $20).
So I am worrying.... and I know that if things are going bad he will get caught and will end up in jail and that will be that.
I have done what I can do by letting him know I care. I know there is nothing else I can do but sit it out and wait. I am not going to keep sending him messages because he is making it clear he doesnt want to communicate right now and that is his choice.
I know I just need to take care of myself and be good to me..... but I have this kind of depressed feeling in my gut. (Feels kind of hormonal but I think it is due to this underlying worry I can do nothing about).
So my question for all of you, who know exactly what I am talking about, is what kinds of things do you do to relax, take your mind of this junk, distract yourself, make yourself feel better?
I do plan to go to our regular alanon meeting tomorrow night.
TL
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So I am worried about difficult child again. He is in a program and ok as far as I know..... last week he asked me to pay for a haircut because he had a job interview on Saturday. OK great I did do that. Last weekend we also paid for a subway pass, according to him he got a one week pass from where he was staying and then he was on his own. Well he would need a pass to get around the city etc so we did that.
So now I havent heard from him even though I texted him and sent him two messages on FB. And that bus pass from last week was just a week so if that story was really true he would have needed another pass this week.
So I have a bad feeling again..... I see posts on FB so I know he has seen my messages. His posts feel a bit iffy and he sounds depressed although it is hard to tell. But his pointed lack of response is really the red flag to me..... he doesnt communicate when he is using or not doing well. It struck me this morning maybe the subway pass was a ruse to get something he could sell for cash (it would be only $20).
So I am worrying.... and I know that if things are going bad he will get caught and will end up in jail and that will be that.
I have done what I can do by letting him know I care. I know there is nothing else I can do but sit it out and wait. I am not going to keep sending him messages because he is making it clear he doesnt want to communicate right now and that is his choice.
I know I just need to take care of myself and be good to me..... but I have this kind of depressed feeling in my gut. (Feels kind of hormonal but I think it is due to this underlying worry I can do nothing about).
So my question for all of you, who know exactly what I am talking about, is what kinds of things do you do to relax, take your mind of this junk, distract yourself, make yourself feel better?
I do plan to go to our regular alanon meeting tomorrow night.
TL
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