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toughlovin
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Just read the thread about practicing responses to things they say....i related to a lot of those and thought you gals/ guys might have a good way for me to word something i want to say to my difficult child through a text.
I have just read this good book nancy recommended called "Everything Changes" . In it she talks about kind of being the cheering section when they are working on recovery and not being critical or blaming as that only makes things worse but of course at the same time setting limits and boundaries.
So as you know my son relapsed about a week ago (again) and is in the more restrictive sober house. We cut his grocery money from $75 down to $50 for now. Of course i got push back from him which i did not fall for.
So if he relapses again when he moves over again to the less restrictive place he will be out for 30 days. When i talked to the manager he said if that happens he can give my son some tips on dumpster diving!
So my stand at the moment ( not sure husband is on same page yet on this) is that if he gets kicked out then that will be the end of us adding money to his grocery card....plus i would like to decrease it anyways to encourage him to find a job.
So how do i say all that in a positive way? Any ideas?
TL
I have just read this good book nancy recommended called "Everything Changes" . In it she talks about kind of being the cheering section when they are working on recovery and not being critical or blaming as that only makes things worse but of course at the same time setting limits and boundaries.
So as you know my son relapsed about a week ago (again) and is in the more restrictive sober house. We cut his grocery money from $75 down to $50 for now. Of course i got push back from him which i did not fall for.
So if he relapses again when he moves over again to the less restrictive place he will be out for 30 days. When i talked to the manager he said if that happens he can give my son some tips on dumpster diving!
So my stand at the moment ( not sure husband is on same page yet on this) is that if he gets kicked out then that will be the end of us adding money to his grocery card....plus i would like to decrease it anyways to encourage him to find a job.
So how do i say all that in a positive way? Any ideas?
TL